I have perused the Bernos blog and enjoyed reading most thoughts on a variety of different topics. As a single young woman, though, I of course have been drawn to the dating & relationships related pieces.
This led me to find Nolawi & Wondata’s pieces on the F-zone – essentially guys who are in like/lust/love with a woman who only wants to be friends. Both submissions generated much discussion much of which puts the woman at fault for the scenario.
I agree there are certain things women sometimes do to exacerbate the situation. The dating scene can be contentious and confusing at times, and as a woman you walk a delicate line between being ‘too nice’and leading someone on versus being direct which often times gets interpreted as being “a bitch.”
To the women out there I will say — if you know what you want or don’t want for everyone’s sake, please be honest and direct without insulting.
Be aware that no matter how ‘nice’ you are sometimes the guy is just going to take things the wrong way, and its just something he is going to have to work through. In the end you are doing him a favor if you are honest from the moment you know how you truly feel. No, my question is:
What is a woman to do when she has done all she can to let a guy know he will not pass out of the F-zone but he remains persistent?”
Two years ago I moved back to a city where I have many friends. I had just gotten out of a 4 year relationship 8 months prior and had not really dated since. One particular friend, in an attempt to be helpful, introduced me to her cousin who had just moved to the same city. He was new to the area and quickly became a regular among our group. Continue reading ‘My Zone’
Track 5: Teddy Yo’s Album ‘Albaw Mesaraya*’ Called 904.
Every year, I go to the ESFNA Soccer I find one or two albums that are worth buying. Ethiopian music is completely junk these days. They ruined it, and the public at least in Ethiopia doesn’t have good taste.
So they listen and party with Ethiopian disco, led by the Evangadi and Teddy Afro, who happen to be a great talents and performers, not caring about making muziqa that lasts more than 5 years.
I boycotted all Ethiopian current music, except hip-hop and traditional music. This year though I found Teddy Yo’s album. So much better than any one the mainstream music. I actually had heard a few tracks from the album via You Tube. And I am impressed.
Teddy Yo Rocks… I was planning to podcast a few songs I liked but luckily one songs are found via music videos.
Track 2 called Maren Cha Cha based on KebetbaTa Wetat by Seyfu Kebede and the Army Band (bernos theme song as I call it) is actually what impressed me. They sampled the Seyfu Kebede’s classic in a very professional way where they didn’t repeat the chorus again and again like some of the American Ethiopian rappers do. Continue reading ‘Gurageton’
Women are complicated human beings and I have been getting conflicting signals. Thus I don’t know what is right or wrong?
I have heard female significant others both mine and of friends claim that it’s wrong for a man attached in a relationship to flirt with other women, regardless of the act leading to other acts.
I for one think of the deed to be legal by all measurable standards!
A friend once told me that she disapproves flirting because it can misinterpret her fiancée’s intent of actually not pursuing a relationship or a casual encounter with the person he is flirting with. Continue reading ‘On Flirting…’
My uncle told me this from his own personal experience of an remarkable man. Just like the story of my professor’s father in law, I find it very interesting and keep retelling it over and over.
Last week, I was in Chicago for a week, I met lots of people who I have met before and some others for the first time ever. I look at their faces and realize I knew them somehow, in particular cases I remembered how I knew them but not their names. In certain instances, I would need a name before I realize who they actually were.
I was running down to the bernos booth while Dawit was looking for me. He was standing there waiting for me with a familiar face, and nothing more.
I spoke with this person casually for a few minutes before my memory was triggered. I felt bad about it and gave him a hug. I was supposed to know this person, because this person is special to bernos. Continue reading ‘perceptive moments’
I got a tweet, via my TwitterFox and its said praying for MJ. I was thinking Michael Jordan for some reason. I left it go and searched the web. Later I heard he went to the hospital and then he died. I got a lot of text messages.
Eventually it was confirmed. I am so sad! Recently I found out someone I knew that was really young had died and I was and have been thinking that I should make the best out of my life because you never know what could happen tomorrow. Continue reading ‘gone but not forgotten’
