I feel defining your relationship and your mutual decision to be or not to be exclusive is very important. Many couples spend time dating but never discuss the point they’ve crossed from just seeing each other to being committed. Exclusivity doesn’t apply to every relationship but having “the talk” should.
I’ve heard some people say, “if you’re dating and you’ve passed the initial sexual moment and you’ve been seen in public together then you’re exclusive” Well I beg to differ. What happens if one decides to date someone else and the other had expectations of a future together? Isn’t it easier to just talk about it? Exhibit A: So one guy tells me “she was fun, exciting then she dropped the ball about getting a key to my place” I asked “what was your answer?” he said, “well I never knew we were serious.” This is after about 9 months of dating. Avoid the misunderstanding and the gray areas and stop assuming what you want or think is what your partner does as well.
Continue reading ‘Baby, can we talk?’
Published by celebratelife July 2nd, 2007 in Advice and Dating.
I love my mother. She’s a strong and loving person. But sometimes she is unbearable. As long as I can remember I have translated things, filled out forms, and made phone calls on behalf of my mother.
Although never discussed it was always assumed anything that involved speaking English would be handled by me. Oh I should note my mother speaks English well enough to get whatever she needs done. In fact I’ve seen her do it and been amazed!
Recently, I find myself frustrated by the list of things my mom has for me to do. My day is already full with the crap that I have to get done without anything else added. Also, it’s bad enough she asks me to do things at the most inopportune times, but then complains if it is not done to her liking. I believe beggars can’t be choosers; you want it done differently…do it yourself! Continue reading ‘Mittu Mittu Mittu’
Published by Meron June 29th, 2007 in Childhood, Family and Personal.
Joro yalew yisma, Yesema yAsema…Ayein yalew yaanbib, Yanehbebe yasinebeb…
They are hot, sexy and new…and I’m not just talking about the models. Bernos been in business for over a year now, and have had three sets of bernos tees out, each one exciting and loved by so many. And now the fourth set of bernos t-shirts are available!!!
our popular Addis Ababa Classic concept rebranded as part II on Red/White ringer American Apparel T-shirt priced at $23.95,
and the Afrocode on Army American Apparel T-shirt priced at $19.95 are now for sale on our home page. Continue reading ‘Awaje Awaje Awaje’
Published by Meron June 27th, 2007 in Bernos and Design.
This article is a follow-up to Love A 1st sight? parts One, Two and Three.
It was quite a rainy day in South Beach Miami that afternoon. A category 4 hurricane has been reported to hit the south side of the peninsula in just about 12 hours. Cool ocean-breeze-turned-to-gusty wind blazed through the window swinging the drapes to all directions, I sat before my open kitchen counter aggressively gulping a glass of wine then pouring one after the other.
“You shouldn’t be drinking alcohol with an empty stomach” she said, coming out of the shower. Clean white towel wrapped around her head. Her dripping wet body covered with another towel from half her breasts down to her upper thighs.
“And would you mind closing the window please? It’s supposed to be a category 4 hurricane. May be we should have evacuated just like the rest of them” she continued.
I could tell she was getting a little irritated and perhaps was wondering why in God’s name I decided to get drunk in mid-day. I didn’t feel like giving her a response. I sat there looking almost depressed.
Andrea was from a rich Brazilian family. She almost always had to have her life in such an order that any deviation from that order means a great disaster for her. I was getting tired of it. Continue reading ‘Love @ 1st sight? IV’
Published by Chelema June 25th, 2007 in Dating and Series.
So it was about a couple of weeks ago, and I was at a book store skimming through the table of contents of “The Economist” until one title caught my eye, “Marriage in America: The frayed knot.” Usually, this is a kind of title that one would least expect to be on ‘The Economist.’ And thus, I got curious and jumped right to the article.
Overall, the article is not intended to give you a recipe for a happy marriage nor does it offer any suggestions as to where you can find your ideal match.
Nonetheless, the author did a good job of discussing how the widening marriage gap is breeding inequality in this society. However, it’s just this one paragraph that hit me in the head and knocked the breath right out of me, and led me to write this. It reveals a research finding that most people will find very surprising and that I thought was worth sharing. Continue reading ‘Cohabitation’
Published by Ted June 22nd, 2007 in Current Issues, Dating and Thoughts.
