Archive for the 'Advice' Category



Ignoration 40 Comments

Years ago a friend of mine tried to date an acquaintance. She was in a state of confusion and, as I suspect, was in love with someone else but decided to still give my friend a chance or possibly use him to get attention. I don’t know the details, but I knew they spent a [...]

09.09.09 30 Comments

Tens of thousands of Chinese couples rushed to tie the knot across the nation Wednesday, or 09/09/09, hoping that the ‘triple 9 day’ will bring them good luck and eternal love. Few years ago when I was in graduate school, the graduate student association held speed dating event twice a years.When the next speed dating [...]

my Gripes w/ you 92 Comments

I have been reading bernos since the beginning, and while I love it, some of the content seems like it’s too much bellyaching about Ethiopian women and men. I have some advice for both sexes, or at the very least bellyaching of my own. For the men; it seems to me many Ethiopians aren’t as [...]

keep it to yourself 52 Comments

The traditional “idea” as described in the dictionary is just ‘any conception existing in the mind as a result of mental understanding, awareness, or activity.’ So an idea is nothing but ‘a thought’ that comes to your head while you are peeing; & speaking it doesn’t necessarily make it a great one. Anyone can come up [...]

My Zone 71 Comments

I have perused the Bernos blog and enjoyed reading most thoughts on a variety of different topics.  As a single young woman, though, I of course have been drawn to the dating & relationships related pieces. This led me to find Nolawi & Wondata’s pieces on the F-zone – essentially guys who are in like/lust/love [...]