A rebuttal from Ethio-Girl
Hello let me introduce myself. My name is CONFUSED. Yes, that is my name .I was not always called CONFUSED. In fact before I was Confused the Girl I was also the proud owner of 2 other more conventional names so you can see why I opted for a third, if you don’t see it join me in being confused but leave the name to me, however confused you might be I can outdo you and truly live to my name’s expectation which are many and varied.
People like to use variations of the meaning of my chosen name So I am called Perplexed or Bemused or Baffled or Bewildered and the worst is Lost which I am not , it exasperates me that I have to explain that no I did not choose to call myself any of those names even if they mean the same thing as my Confused….I chose Confused because it is clear enough what it means but for a tiny second when I introduce myself it sounds like Confucius which raises eyebrows the shape of a question then the eyebrows come back down replaced by a look of amusement and the questions start:….
“Did you just say your name is Confused?”
“Yeah, do you like it?”
“I am not sure, is that your real name?”
“It is now, it wasn’t always…”
“Does the name have something to do with you being urhm confused?” Confused (really confused now):”Well yes, why else would I call myself Confused if I wasn’t?…I would be calling myself Not Confused wouldn’t I?….”
“What are you confused about?”
“Pretty much most things”
“Like what?”
“Like I said most things, like for example love confuses me, hate confuse me also, when it is embodied sometimes in the same person it is so confusing it disorientates, then truth confuses me instead of setting me free and lies do too as does the environment and the number of things to recycle, I know it has to be done but it is still confusing because as paper is recycled trees are cut what is that if not confusing? where society wants me keeps changing too so that confuse me lots of other things confuse me too ranging from the death penalty and its objectives to what men really want from women and Venus and Mars do you want me to go on?… ”
“Ehm no, I see what you mean”….
Published by January 7th, 2008 in Dating and Personal.
Hey,
You don’t sound confused to me.
Everything you mentioned as confusing is really confusing. You know who I think is confused? Those people who think they understand it all. The way I see it? If you know you are confused, you are not. I mean, everybody is confused. Some are aware of it and some are confused about their confusion. You seem to be well aware of your confusion. You are definitely confused but you know that you are confused. So, you are not confused….I hope that is not confusing…
Nice post, whoever you are…..
Thank you Dinich,
I am confused, but since I am aware of my confusion I am not confused is that right? ..does knowing that made me any less confused? yes and no which is a classic confused reply of befuddled minds everywhere.
Is this state of confusion permanent or do you know any remedies for it? when will I know it all? if it never happens CONFUSED will be so grateful if you did know of such remedy, or knew someone who knew, so she could know it too.
What do you think of talking of yourself in the third person? isnt that really confusing? There is one thing I am not confused about, maybe the only thing is that I am one and not three people yet on I go confusing myself even more than the world does addressing myself as the 3rd.
Oh Noooooo! Here’s another confused who’s attempting to confused the “unconfused”. I don’t know what to say to you. Stay confused, may be. How about if you limit quesitoning yourself, you may become less confused. Hey, i tried to give you an elderly advice.
“where society wants me keeps changing too so that confuse me..” I’m already confused by this statement. I think you’re doing your share of conusion here. Unless, you want to change, society don’t make you change. Regarding the death penality, move to Texas or be a republican so, you won’t be confused by it
I like your “confused” piece, though.
Dear confused,
What I advise you is to just chill out and get old. This confusion will evaporate with age. As you get older, you will have an answer for your questions. Thus you will be less confused. Till then enjoy life and stop confusing others.
Who are you Confused-Anonymous? You have me at attention please identify yourself.
[quote comment="115185"]Dear confused,
What I advise you is to just chill out and get old. This confusion will evaporate with age. As you get older, you will have an answer for your questions. Thus you will be less confused. Till then enjoy life and stop confusing others.[/quote]
exactly the reason why i prefer older woman… they boobs might be softer… but they sure kinda know what they want…. they are also easier to be with..
Confused,
Remember the cliched analysis and the four types of people?
1 Those who know and know that they know….
2 Those who know but don’t know that they know….
3 Those who do not know but know that they do not know….and
4 Those who do not know and do not know that they do not know….
No. 1 are rare…most people are no 2 or no 4…..your description fits no 3 which I think is second to only # 1…..
Don’t take me too seriously….
Thank you Grandma
I was not not being pretentious, I was not being philosophical I am CONFUSED I swear to God and every other sacred being. I beleive attempting to confuse the “unconfused” will confuse me further more so I dont try.Confusing others is too much to deal with, when I have to deal with trying to unconfuse myself. I have taken your kind advice I will limit the questioning that confuses me,lets hope it wont be confusing which questions to leave and which to keep asking myself. I am not confused about moving to Texas.I will not. I will be clearer about place in society confusingly changing whan I am less confused about it. I am trying not to spread it.
KT
Thank you for your advice my fear is that sometimes confusion does not evaporate with age, you just find newer things to be confused about, appropriate for that age and not your youth. I am now trying to avoid old age and confusion at the same time. And I dont mean to confuse anyone else than myself that is why I am in this state.
Tsegure
I am CONFUSED,it is my name and my only identity.
Nolawi
I see you dont seem confused at all. Where are you on Dinich scale?
Dinich,
Number 1 and number three of the cliched analysis have as many similarities as they have differences. It doesn’t look confusing but complex which confuses me a great deal. I am a little less confused everytime I talk to you without so thank you .Where are you on the scale?
I’m confused about all this confusion
Dear Confused,
We may not aware of it, but i think we all are in the same boat with you (the differnce is that we’ve not written down like you or it differs the level of confusion we’re in).
Some Confusion doesn’t evaporate with age at all. I absolutley agree with you. When you get older, you may have clear understanding of your wants, needs, in relationships, however, that doesn’t mean you’re “confusion free”. What i found out that when i get older, i’m questioning things i never questioned before and cofused by it. Here we go, you may be suffering from middle age crisis. Believe me, “middle age crisis” is a real sucker and follows you like a shadow.
Sometimes being close to where your fears are helpful so, i thought the state of Texas will normalize your confusion about death penality. You know the state of Texas views death penality a piece of cake (oh! well, those cowboy boots & hats might confused you):(
Wishing you a happy Unconfused moment!!
I like the way your write
gin, I don’t mean to attack you… but I hate that word “Confused” especially when it’s over used. My head starts to feel like beTam yenefereqe qiqil dinich
Confused,
Let me guess? Are you SUNDUQ? Undeniably, you’ve a very similar ways of expressing, sharing hidden thoughts just like SUNDUQ
Confused,
Regarding where I think I am on the scale, I find myself at all 4 position at different times…So, hard to say. But, 3 is not a bad place to be and I don’t have a problem finding myself at 3 more often.
But I guess these things are too theoretical and it is almost impossible to fit everybody in those four boxes but they are good in terms clearing some things.
“Eventually all of the pieces fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment, and know that everything happens for a reason.” ~Anonymous
having a Socratic moment, i see.
Catch 22 moment, I see.
You must have learned confusion from someone confused. I think you mean FEAR, its under your bed and confusion.
‘Like I said most things, like for example love confuses me, hate confuse me also, when it is embodied sometimes in the same person it is so confusing it disorientates, then truth confuses me instead of setting me free and lies do too as does the environment and the number of things to recycle, I know it has to be done but it is still confusing because as paper is recycled trees are cut what is that if not confusing? where society wants me keeps changing too so that confuse me lots of other things confuse me too ranging from the death penalty and its objectives to what men really want from women and Venus and Mars do you want me to go on?… ”
It seems like everything is beyond out of your control, so please have faith in GOD and leave everything for him.
DawitK join the club, I will not confuse you anymore than I confuse myself, I am clear about that..lol..
Dear Grandma,
I agree older is not always wise or at least unconfused. The worst thing would be to enter middle age confusion twilight zone not having understood or conquered earlier youthful confusion in nicer zones. Bad combination. Then patiently await for dementia.
Texans wear cowboy boots and hats in winter. They wear cowboy boot and hats in summer. Are boots not hot to wear in summer?, do cowboy hats cover your ears from the cold in winter?, only woolies hats do that, they dont wear wooly hats in Texas Grandma do you see why I dont want to move there? I cant even understand the local dress code. For two different seasons they wear the same clothes but hot and cold are different and need different fabric of clothing for protecting the body from it is it really me who is confused here or others are too,?
Doro Mata…
Thanks, if someone is confused and they are called CONFUSED, it all becomes a bit repetitive I know but what other word is there to use in describing confusion? or the confused?…
Dinich,
Number 4 on the scale got me you know what, I am trying not to over use the word confused, but it has, it is a less clear position than 3…3 doesnt know and knows that it doesnt know which is one way clueless one way maybe with a little clue of what it is clueless about …what is no 4 about I do not get it and neither do they I think.
Number 1 seems to be for very certain people with sense of entitlement and little doubt. Number 2 knows but seems clueless of what it might know which isnt helpful to them or others…
This has got me back right where I started..lol..
Dear Anon
Thank you only when specifically are the pieces supposed to fall into place? See no one has a time table for that and eventually is an open ended and a long time too. Living for the moment is fine until maybe the moment wasnt what you thought it was and sometimes it isnt explained all the reasons why everything happens.
I dont know, was he confused too?…I thought he sounds like he knew a lot or asked a lot in any case wasnt that was his job?…
My confusion is my own. I am embracing it and no one else is sharing the credit though the world has contributed to it and isnt something you can learn, you can as just as easily be that yourself from when you joined the world..who would teach others to be confused anyway?. FEAR I agree is part of confusion,but so is the unknown, both fearful and confusing. Is that what you mean?
Lemat,
I am not out of control I am CONFUSED.
It is a different position than being out of control and out of confusion comes clarity.
God has already provide me with a brain with the understanding that I will use it to understand the world. I have eyes and ears and other senses to which will also help me understand better.
I understand that it is my own duty to provide myself with answers that will lift the haze of confusion from my life. I think God approves of anyone who tries to unconfuse themselves.
.
Confused, interestingly, I like you and I don’t like you all at the same time. Like a flavor of a week, I see you everywhere literally and figuratively and your writing although clear and lucid, is rhetorically designed to be confusing. You are confused; I am confused; we all are confused. You speak for me and them too. Thank you. For that I don’t like you. (smile). I like you for the nugget of gold you have provided creatively, but while confused, were confusing. Nugget of Gold: “The worst thing would be to enter middle age confusion twilight zone not having understood or conquered earlier youthful confusion in nicer zones. Bad combination. Then patiently await for dementia.” Although I wouldn’t dare try to be a therapist and diagnose problems, I think you are dead right in that people not only those who enter middle age, but at any age do not grow up emotionally, if anything is left unresolved, or if they didn’t get the care and love they deserved as children, for instance. Traumatic events in your life, specially those experienced in your childhood, like verbal and physical abuse, displacement and uprooting resulting from war, remain to haunt you in your adulthood. They haunt you because those traumatic events distort your identity. Your reality becomes distorted, you see fear where fear should not be, you panic or become hyperarroused over the most miniscule things. In other words a person who experienced traumatic event sees ghost, where a normal person might not. Now we all experience some kind of trauma and we are able as adults to see those trauma for what they are, but as children we are helpless, we absorb trauma as if we deserve it and in turn the trauma affects our self-confidence and self-esteem.
Forgive me!
Confused,
What can I say? You stir these discussions really well….That is what blogging is all about…discussions, discussions, discussions.
My conclusuions: You are not confused at all. You are out to confuse everybody which you seem to be doing really well. Look at what DawitK said.That is exactly what you have done to everybody….
Good job is all I can say.
dear confused,
Life becomes easy if you stop being confused about everything. Just focus on what you want and go after that. In my opinion the source of most people confusion these days is they don’t know what they want. Thus in the process of figuring out what they want, they end up confusing other people in all aspect of life whether it’s in relationship, business, and career. It’s not easy to figure out what you want but it’s not so difficult to figure out what you don’t want. So may be start from what you don’t want and work your way to what you want while minimizing confusion
.
Dear Anon…
My head is reeling, first you sound confused, then all becomes clear and you sound sure. For that I like you.
Anon, there are several types of confusions and even though no man or woman in life is spared trauma there are big traumas that blight someone”s life in a negative way becuase there was no resolve to a traumatic event that shaped their subsequent life, then there are smaller traumas or rites of passage like some call it that may not have as strong an inpact on their lives. It is all about proportionalities. How they resolve it also depends on people”s personalities and how they overcome trauma, some can come to terms with it however bad it was and others cant even if they have suffered similar traumas.
I feel not all confusion is trauma based , some of it is mostly seeeking for different certainties without it confusing myself about my own certainties. The confusion you spoke about is phychological confusion that comes thru pain. It is a differend kind of confusion, not mine…mine just questions things and does that aloud instea of just in my head..
Thank you Dinich, I really was not confusing anyone I was seeking relief for my own confusion instead it seems I have opened another channel of confusion. that is not what I intended to do This is the law of uninted returns at work isnt it?..I am going to ponder on that point.
Dear KT,
This is true, a friend even tells me he can never choose when given too many choices about anything which I think is worse than being confused ie it is being indecisive . What would he prefer little or no choice? lol..I dont not suffer from that affliction, to be given choices I think is a blessing and I am grateful, I am not even questioning it. Even in my confusion I am not indecisive just CONFUSED.. Thank you for the advice…
dear confused,
Life becomes easy if you stop being confused about everything. Just focus on what you want and go after that. blockquote>
Forgive me!
I see now Confused, your confusion is similar to arriving at Ruth Chris Prime Stake House and being confused over abundance and torn-up/confused by the decision you have to make over which prime steak to order. When confronted with a choice between A and B that are equally good, we usually get confused unlike by a choice between A and B that are unequally good/bad. Do you also find yourself confronted with the same set of choices when dating? A is just as pretty/handsome as B… OMG! Which way to go, which way to go? I am confused! Confused, what a privilege state of mind to be. (smile)
Confused, ok, apology. Now I do see your beatyful riddle. Beautyful and very clever of you. I had to read it again to see what exactly you are talking about, but I hope in my misteps some tangential ground was covered. Keept it up. I love it.
Oh no Anon, I am truly CONFUSED now, what happened to yur earlier perception which was bulls eye in some places?…
No dear Anon my confusion is not about Steak Houses which wont work since I only eat fish and call myself vegeterian with quite a straight face and which of course is not quite vegeterian enough.
I will now feel the need to speak of myself in the 3rd person which I do sometimes confusingly enough….As I said I am confused not indecisive my friend is. It is annoying too, to me. The two are different we agree I hope?
I know the real value that is having a choice or a chance in anything in life as it might not always been so and I know many others who are not so fortunate. I am not whimsical CONFUSED yes whimsical No….
As in dating, I am pretty sure what attracts me…looks and personality wise…I dont have many types just one when I find him I dont look at anyone else..but generally having choices is better than having none and it is quite the priviledge too. I cant speak for my friends though, there is a term for what they suffer I kid you not it is called *AFFLUENZA” laugh not if you can…lol but this condition is suffered by people who have everything they ever wanted and got but instead of it making them content and grateful, they become miserable and start navel gazing themselves into the land of misery which I think it is the best place for them and should be left there to do so. Now what can of twisted logic is this?. As you can see this annoys me on top of the usual state of incomprehension I am in. This is why I am CONFUSED and do you wonder now?..lol…
Anon #24,
“….arriving at Ruth Chris Prime Stake House..”, that you call it dilemma not confusion. The confusion comes when you’re asked to pay $$$. You know, you could buy the entire village cow in a total of one damn bill. I always be left with confusion and a headache.(kikiki)
This is intesting Granny(you have me there) and Confused (So y are you confused, and not confuse, or even confusing. Y are you in the past and not in the present. Don’t make me read you again, but I do recall you saying you have had few other names in the past that you now replace with confused. Seems to me you haven’t changed, you are still in the past. And how did you mutate from a verb to a noun?)
You are such a tease. Tease me more. If I could write like you, I had be ANGER, or rageholic. And that would not be a verb, and no one would confuse it with a has been.
Dear Anon,
Dear Anon you appear to be as funny as you are perceptive…the charming bit confuses as charm always does and contributes greatly to my CO state of being (not wanting to use the same word again and again)…lol….Yes i did have two names, 1st and 2nd but each could be 1st, now is there any way that would sound clear cut?…yet it is true.lol…I am not in the past but my past is part of me as much as ever, I have not rejected my previously two good enough names or my past I just thought that perhaps if I feel confused and not say I am not likely to know any different or it will take a long time…
If on the other hand I made it clear( no pun intended) that I am CONFUSED by name people would cooperate more as all like to enlighten or try to I could ask and I could seek and I could learn and I could live it and it doesnt take as long because itis active.
And how did you mutate from a verb to a noun?)
When my combined two previous names didnt expalin the world and between them are at least six thousand years old. yet they dont make the world any clearer, so I thought it was time for a new name. A simpler one that speaks of how I think sometimes.
Thank you Anon, that is sweet *eyebrow raised up high in the form of a question? * why rageholic? I am COed again….
…Me a tease?…I cant tell the wood from the trees and you ask me to tease?..lol …this is funny dear Anon, you have funny smarts I would say it means smart +sense of humour= good smart- sense of humour= unbearably tedious…this statement though is confusing and funny at the same time I dont completly get what it means as always, so who is doing the confusing now?..lol, it made me laugh though…
Confused,
What i noticed about you here is that there’s a paradox in the above comments. When you’re certain you’re very certain in many areas of your comments and then you seem very confused in many areas too. Usually, the word “God” by itself is a confusion maker for many people out there and surprisingly, you used “God” in a real certainity term.
Speaking of vegetarian, at least you’re honest about the purity ( plenty silly vegeterians out there). Hey, there’s less confusion in the so called “uncivilized society”. The only thing is that you’ll need to “un-learn your confusion” though (knowing you now, it may make you confused the “un-learning confusion” too):=( I think, as much as the “civilized world” made us a conusmer, i truly believed that it made us also a “consumer confusion”. Pricy, costy…. :=)
Confused: I found ALL your siblings, step-siblings, direct and distant cousins and your future children. Don’t ask who is whom. In no particular order, meet them all…
The one thrown into a state of disarray or confusion is:
Upset, broken, disordered
The one lacking orderly continuity is;
Disorder, unconnected, scattered, illogical, garbled, disjoined, disoriented, disconnected
The one that lost his/her bearing; confused as to time or place or personal identity:
Disoriented, lost
The one perplexed by many conflicting situations or statements; filled with bewilderment,
Bewildered, mazed, bemused, confounded, baffled, at sea, mixed-up, lost, befuddled
These are your distant and not so distant cousins and may be even your future kids, the mentally confused; unable to think with clarity or act intelligently. Say hi to them….
The Stupid and confused; used to especially of a person:
Addlebrained, muddleheaded, addlepated, potty, puddingheaded
The confused and vague; used to especially of thinking :
Addled, muzzy, muddled, woolly, wooly, woolly-headed, wooly-minded, befuddled
The one stupefied by alcoholic drink:
Befogged
The one experiencing difficulty:
Perplexed
The one in a state of mental numbness especially resulting from shock:
Dazed, stunned, stupefied, stupid
The one dazed from or as if from repeated blows:
Punch, drunk, silly, slap happy,
The one confused or disoriented as if intoxicated through taking drug
spaced-out,
The one stupefied or dizzied by something overpowering:
Dazzled
The one in as if in trance:
Trancelike
Here are my favorites that this stupid visual thesaurus I am using linked to Confuse but not to Confused:
Discombobulate, bedevil, confound, abnubilate
My dear Confused, who is assembled without order and in disarray, I think, thank you for educating me—btw I loved your AFLUENZA. I was mystified when you said it only because I was reading an advice column about a suburbanite in his 40, had it all, the house, the job, the wife and kids and yet he was depressed. You called it afluenza. But did think you were a little compassionless to those who suffer from it. Be not presumptuous now, I am far from suffering from it or ever will be. My humble background will I hope root me in the hunger, injustice I know. Your friends are lucky to have you, no doubt your family too.
Your invitation to join your universe, I accept. I am DISCOMBOBULATED. I feel befogged right now, but don’t confuse that for spaced-out. As I develop a better understanding of myself, I’ve come out of my not abusive but experimenting days, if you now what I mean. But please don’t cut me into a DISCO, I ain’t that old.
Ain’t it a bitch though: you tell people you are confused and people like me start feeling sorry for you and say you are traumatized, Godless, lost, in need of help when all you are saying is listen, I am Confused: its my name and my identity. I am always amazed after the fact how people, urs included, talk when they should be listening. On my grave stone I would like it to say ‘he listened’ in Geez because the others do it in Latin and I ironically probably would get more flowers. But I am not sure if it ever will, because no matter how hard I try it may never be. Feeling sorry is one of the worst thing you can do to these who tell you they have a problem, or you perceive to have a problem. Even if you can’t help, just listen, but never feel sorry. Inaction over action even if that inaction is listing in silence over feeling sorry I find much better. This action and inaction, I am sure dear to your name you will be confused over.
So I am Discombobulated. I am not in need of help if it doesn’t come from deep inside unless of course a full body massage comes with the help.
You Confused reminded me of all this time when I tell people my name is Nice, they say, no your name is Weak. They see me quite, no he must know nothing. They see me smile, then I must be happy. Can’t I be smiling because my job requires it or because I want to make you feel comfortable. Then if I don’t smile, it must be because I don’t like you. Your list dear Confused may be better, but this is the best my befogged mind can do right now.
The anger is just the struggle I go through. Why do I feel anger over the little shit like a person disagreeing with me or me disagreeing with that person. If I have no valid reason to be angry, then I shouldn’t. Even if I do have a valid reason, its still better that I don’t become angry. The rage is like road rage. I do get in one and then I realize I am disconnected, being illogical a distant cousin of confused. The rageholic, however, is the Rage Against the Machine in me. May be another time…
please stop abusing capslock its annoying!
[quote comment="115185"]Dear confused,
What I advise you is to just chill out and get old. This confusion will evaporate with age. As you get older, you will have an answer for your questions. Thus you will be less confused. Till then enjoy life and stop confusing others.[/quote]
Really?… then why do they have mid-life crisis?
This whole thing looks like one of those Modernist Art exhibitions where everybody is trying to pretend that they understand wht is on the wall.
sometimes the clearest response is saying ”I am sorry,Wht ever you said didn’t make sense to me”
Dear Grandma,
You have a sharp eye lol. What can I say about God? We have not met yet, I don’t know if we ever will. Perhaps when I die, too bad I wont be able report back…
I would like to believe in the God of the Scriptures .I also like to believe in the Evolution theory. It makes my head fight my heart. One minute I want answers I can challenge and test and the discovery of how plus dots. The following moment I want answers that give me comfort and don’t alienate me from my up-bringing and the familiar.
Then I realise my desire to want to believe things that contradict each other in a fundamental ways might be unreasonable and at some point I have got to choose a camp, that is my story about God…
Grandma I may be CONFUSED but I am not going for how to “un- confuse” myself classes it sounds worse than confused it sounds weird. lol..There classes for everything in the world now, there are jobs for everything too, like life coaching. Life coachers teach people how to live their lives ,how weird is this Grandma? that a person other than the owner of a life has to teach how to live, how would they know if the life owner doesn’t know themselves?…
Dear Discofobulated…
With relatives such as these who needs enemies? I dread to think of what might happen at family gatherings…bloodbaths? houses set on fire?.
With the confused, the disorderly the disconnected ,the stupified by drink, the spaced out and the dizzy and many worse anything is possible, how are any of these people supposed to help make things clear for me? …That is it, no more family gatherings. I am ok being CONFUSED I don’t want to be driven mad, these relatives you mentioned might just tip me over the edge so from now on all family gatherings are cancelled lol…
Quite, I say something, You (the general and not specific *you*) hear something different. Upon what you hear and not what I said you draw conclusions, it is like a comedy of errors going round and round in circles…lol and He/she listened is a good epitaph in all languages, after all doesn’t listening help understanding?..
Was I compassionless towards aflluenza sufferers? I didn’t mean to, it is just than on a scale of what things or people to be compassionate about in my confused mind they score very low. It is not for lack of compassion but I feel quite indifferent to them.
Afluenza as far as I know is not an illness, it is not a condition, it is not even a syndrome. I realise no one on any social background has monopoly on depression and that the wealthy have as much right to be afllicted by it as do the poor. But affluenza of the little I read of it is not depression, the whole thing seems to affect only people who have exactly what they wanted or worked for in life or what was given to them ,then they get sad about what they have achieved or was given to them don’t know ,maybe it is boring getting everything you want in life, just like knowing everything is boring it takes away the incentive to want to achieve and to need to know….
Discobulated what is it that makes you so angry on a road rage scale?, people disagreeing with you or the other way around cant be helped in life, getting angry about it wont make people agree with you and vice versa… This is what I do; shake my head when I disagree with someone and shrug my shoulders when someone disagree with me,…
Dear Confused,
Ummm, i’ve a sharp eye. Thanks for the compliment. I chose the name “Grand Ma” but, i still have good vision, though.(smile) Thanks for your clarity about God. BTW, when i said “un-learn confusion”, i meant to say within you, not from outside source (school or life coach..). Hey, learning or un-learning is not coming only from clases.
Believe me, it’s easy to learn bad or good things, the hardest part is that un-learn what we learned. In your case, some of your confusion comes directly what you learned in “civilized society”. I’m pretty sure if you start living in among the so called “4th world society” (indigenous society), some of the stuff what confuses you now, will no longer be a “confuse stuff’. I hope now, you see where the “un-learning” thing coming from? I was trying to help you here, but i’m no help.
Spacefog… you make good sense. Its the narcissism in all of us to think the world revolves arround us; we know what we are talking about. Its a nasty awakening when you find out, shit, I am just a discombobulate dots. But there is nothing wrong attempting to interpret a piece of art according to how you see it without dishonesty. I see via my experience althought with incomplete understand of it.
Thanks Confused. Enjoyed reading you.
I notice that there are some unabashed belletrists in here, masquerading their verbose and nonsensical banter as quasi-intellectual rhetoric on post-modern existentialism. Nonetheless, even though I find your nonchalance to confusion a tad bit pretentious, the Socratic appetite to question and admit ignorance, coupled with a deconstructive attitude towards meaning and interpretation that echoes some segments of Derrida and Heidegger, no matter how intentional or otherwise, are commendable. I wish that your explanation of your name “Confused” had delved slightly further into contextual introspection rather than somewhat superficial and cynical witticisms. But hey, chacun a son goût, no?
Pretentiously yours,
TP
toothpick
Ene Yemilew …I totaly understand the point you are trying to make and Realy thanks for that.I am wondering Do you have like a special dictionary for those words???:)
I find your criticism fair enough Toothpick. But I do think there is nothing wrong with being a belletrist. A good share of art is that, in fact, belletristic. I looked up the definition of belletristic: “written and regarded for aesthetic value than content, similar to able to read and write; literate.” Then it hit me you also provided the definition: “masquerading their verbose and nonsensical banter as quasi-intellectual rhetoric on post-modern existentialism.” I hope I am not involving myself in ad hominem attack, but some of the beautiful pieces you have written on this blog— one in a room with a girl and spotty coach, and another I believe in a room with a girl, a guy and spot on the wall—strike me as being belletristic. I find nothing wrong with it, and I wish to see a collection of short stories from you.
All of this doesn’t cook rice, Kebatari hula!
For the most part I am lost in translation, literally, i.e. between running to Webster to find meaning of a word & then having to try to understand it in the context it being discussed here…any sense of tangible comprehension get just that, lost in translation. I like spacefog’s analysis of the back & forth but I wonder if all/most of it is “pretending” to understand or attempting to understand…after all that art on the wall is subject to interpretation to its viewer in spite of any intentions of the artist. In any case, I too however share that state of being, i.e. confusion about a lot of things that aren’t really fundamentally complex therefore all that confusing but oh well I find my self there from time to time (a lot more often of late)…oh well… but one thing I am not confused on is that I don’t want to remain rooted in such state indefinitely…so I find it rather perplexing (just to change it up a bit lol) that our Confused (sister I believe), while insisting for us (the world around her that is) to accept her as she is and demanding validation of her state…almost simultaneously seems to exhibit indifference (?) to her state & sign of resistance to any notion of “un confus-ing” remedy. I find this, how shall I put this…ummm ya Confusing!:-)
Errrrrrrrrr FuNk all this ‘confusion’ business… I got one clear reality where confusion has no business being there and that is I gots to change me ze diaper pronto before gran-po-po ferments in its wake causing an almost Anthrax-isque kind of terror to any near by company or the pop master himself lol… so Confuse Zat!:-)
[quote comment="116940"]I hope I am not involving myself in ad hominem attack, but some of the beautiful pieces you have written on this blog— one in a room with a girl and spotty coach, and another I believe in a room with a girl, a guy and spot on the wall—strike me as being belletristic.[/quote]
hehehehe!
wasn’t my comment signed “pretentiously yours”?
Pretentious or not, the idea behind the label belletrist isn’t to discuss, the idea is to insult as badly as possible. The attempt to define me rather than what I have said is the fallacy here.
Yeneydama: consider changing your handle to voice of reason: “I like spacefog’s analysis of the back & forth but I wonder if all/most of it is “pretending” to understand or attempting to understand.”
Err … ok, now I am conufsed.
Dear Grandma, thank you, your eye gets sharper…
I agree, if I started living with an indigenous society I would be lot less confused and more likely to want to survive in my new reality as well as I could. If I learn to adapt to my new life and adjust to it would I be unlearning stuff from my old life and reality or have I learned about a new one more relevant to me at that time? I am a bit unclear about it, what o you think?…..
I also think when life is at its most basic certainties are stronger,but some of the things that confuse me have a universality about them of course the context and interpretation being different in each society.
Dear DISCOBULATED,
The pleasure is all mine it’s been fun and helpful….I agree with you about art and individual interpretation, and I think what happens at those art exhibitions, people interpret it as they individually see and relate to that art. Maybe that is what is see as pretending….
Thank you for the review. It is scathingly candid except that I am mentioned in the same line as Socrates even if it isn’t in a good way, still Socrates is Socrates and I have never thought it would happen for any reason, not for writing less than 500 words about personal confusion about things not even all that complex nor did I call it a philosophical quest which really would have been pretentious to use your word…
I have never claimed or implied that my short article was anything than what it was, a personal statement not a quasi-intellectual rhetoric on post modern existentialism. That is though how you read and now I stand accused by your interpretation/perception of my piece quite unabashedly. I find that oddly interesting.
I wanted to say something about the term belletrist but Anon has beaten to me twice now, there is no more to say about it.
Confusedly (and newly branded pretentious) Yours
Confused….
Dear Anon,
You seem to write my thoughts about belletrism, more than once now. I am not confused about anything you said so far about the matter. It has been nice talking to you….
Dear AskaleDama,
I am sorry tohave confused you. I dont mean to spread it…
Lets break this into points. I wrote an article about confusion and me.
You read :I insist that I be accepted and demanding validation of my state of confusion. Did my short article really say that to you, because I am confused now. I wrote about confusion I didnt write about acceptance or insist on it, would you say that is your subjective interpretation of the piece? I would…it is interesting view nonetheless the perception of others about ourselves. I am paying attention to the remedies,it may not look like it but I am…
YekeyDama,
You don’t have to get jealous because Confused is confused.(Just kidding) “confusion about a lot of things that aren’t really fundamentally complex” are you telling us you’re a very smart confused? Good for you!
Ask any kid to pretend that if he/she could be an animal for a day, to be that animal and describe what its like to be that animal. The author called C chose an ‘animal’ called CONFUSED. If you want to call her pretentious, you have my vote. Had she decided to be a giraffe, I would have called her pretentious too. It’s a fun simple mind experiment I wish to see more of. Is she bemused in her life in general? Probably as much as most of us…
as·sump·tion (-smpshn)
n.
1. The act of taking to or upon oneself: assumption of an obligation.
2. The act of taking possession or asserting a claim: assumption of command.
3. The act of taking for granted: assumption of a false theory.
4. Something taken for granted or accepted as true without proof; a supposition: a valid assumption.
5. Presumption; arrogance.
6. Logic A minor premise.
Confused,
Nice transition of blog names Discobo… -Discombo…..-Discofob…,Yekeydama–yneydama-Askaledama-
So far, Confused remained Confused
Indeed Grandma, could I have proven my point any better? now I am mortified, lol.. a bit less confused today as I have gained unexpected insight, there still tomorrow though lol…
Confused I believe I mounted on your train of confusions and reached what you may deem as my interpretation/assumption… it also was not limited to the original article itself but inclusive of what you have said thus far in the back and forth. Follow me:
The insistence seems evident…at least it does seem so to me. You are clear about your confusion and you don’t want anyone one of us to confuse it with anything else. That is what I meant…now one could say ‘well that is more of correction of people’s interpretation and not seeking acceptance or validation’… in which case I will stand corrected.
GrandMa, confused is not stupid/with out smarts so in that sense I guess I could claim I am a smart girl who gets confused from time to time (and at times for a longer duration of times):) Btw I should’ve followed that up with ‘confusion about a lot of things that aren’t really fundamentally complex or all that important in the grand scheme of things’… I get confused about things that should have less significance to me and from that confusion comes worry, uncertainty and mother pucker of all reduction/lack of confidence & belief in self.
Got me there C. Trying to simplify your essay for my sake.Thanks for the mental contortion.
Hey guys!
Confusion is when some one is not sure what to do about an issue. Meaning, that some one is experiencing new things or in a new situation.
“I am not young enough to know every thing”, but I say better be confused for a while till figured out the issue at hand than being in the same old bad situation where I think I know every thing or not confused.
Peace
Watch,
Confusion can also be when a person is confused and also confused about their confusion. To make it worse the person may not know that he/she is confused about their confusion.
If the person does not know that he/she doesn’t know that he/she is confused about her/his confusion, that triples the confusion and multiplies the ignorance….
So,I prefer my good old comfort zone where everything is familiar even if boring….
Don’t take me too seriously…
Dinich..that was funny. i see your point….
most people when they are confused they know that they are confused but they just deny it. I have no idea why they do that. Admitting that they are confused is one step a head they are not confused eko….anyways these days everyone is confused for no reason……..
Justme,
First, good to see u again…I am still wondering what happened to the boyfriend you were crazy about….anyway, that is another topic…
Back to the topic. I had triple confusion and double ignornace and now you topped it with a layer of denial…..what do you call that?
Something I just read, and thought relevant to the subject here.
“don’t be afraid to be confused. periods of confusion…about this, about that…are really periods of thinking and sifting through experience. at some point the fog lifts and the confusion recedes. and then there will be confusion about something else. it’s a learning thing. and it’s lifelong.”
Dear YekeDama…
Please accept my apology for the late reply. I was ill, I am still ill. I will first answer the first half of your question and then please bear with me as I will come back for the rest about the latter part of your post…..
This statement was in reply to this one that was made to me by poster Anon….
To which I replied:….
My initial assertion was that I am CONFUSED. It was suggested to me that it must have been caused by others which was not what I said at all. In reply I stated that wasnt the case and that it was indeed all of my own confusion.
I personally would call that clarifying what I stated when others might think I said or meant something else, or if indeed is the way they read it which gives it a different meaning than the one I intended.
Ditto for this one it is part of my reply to the same poster….
This in reply to this poster LEMAT:…
Again I pointed out that I am CONFUSED and never mentioned out of control if I did my title would have been “out of Control” not CONFUSED….
This one is slightly different, on the occasion it was me who mentioned a friend who was indecisive and I was making a distinction between confusion and decisiveness and saying that I am one and not the other.
Here is what I relied then
This is another reply to poster Anon
Again on this instance nothing was said to to me but there was what I thought might have been an inference to maybe being whimsical and here is poster Anon’s statement:…
And here is my reply:….
I dont know who I said this too but it means what it says though
[quote comment="117998"]Justme,
First, good to see u again…I am still wondering what happened to the boyfriend you were crazy about….anyway, that is another topic…
Back to the topic. I had triple confusion and double ignornace and now you topped it with a layer of denial…..what do you call that?[/quote]
dinch…. i am still around and reading what ppl have to say about everything. about B.F when everything go stright i will make sure update you on everything eshi
and.. 3 confusion + 2 ignorance= DENIAL!!
ok with confusion
hate igorance
hate…hate..hate denial..!!
Dear YekeDama…this is my reply to the latter part of your post.
This is one line of a longer answer I gave to Discobobulated who seemed to have understood what I said.
….
Discobobulated quote:…
My reply to him….
Quite, I say something, You (the general and not specific *you*) hear something different. Upon what you hear and not what I said you draw conclusions, it is like a comedy of errors going round and round in circles…lol and He/she listened is a good epitaph in all languages, after all doesn’t listening help understanding?..
Dear YekeDama where is it that my insistence seem evident? and what is it to insist? and is clarifying something insisting upon it?…I found a definition of the word insist and this is what it says:
Insist: To be firm in a demand or course
To assert or demand something vehemently and persistently
To be emphatic, resolute….
Do any of the reply I have given sound like I have insisted or demanded anything?…let me take you back to what I actually said. I have remaed myself Confused and talked a little about it.
Several people heard several things I didnt say or meant, I gently reminded them to what I really did say and did mean. others gave me advice and more others made assumptions. Isnt what I have done making myself clearer to what I said and meant?, is clarifying anything that hasnt being taken the way it was meant insisting upon anything, I am confused again probably beacuse I dont get it….
[quote comment="119150"][quote comment="117998"]about B.F when everything go stright i will make sure update you on everything eshi
and.. 3 confusion + 2 ignorance= DENIAL!!
ok with confusion
hate igorance
hate…hate..hate denial..!![/quote]
JUSTME: A couple of questions for you..
Q1: Who has to go straight you or your boyfriend?
Q2: According to your formula…DENIAL equals 2 ignorance PLUS 3 confusion..so if you “hate…hate..hate” DENIAL then how can you be ok with confusion? That JUST doesn’t add up to ME
I think you’re a little confused and that’s why you’re ok with it. I think the answer to Q1 has just been answered 
Dear Watch Peace to you too…
Thank you for getting my point. Change is the biggest contributor to my confusion. What seemed certain and right only a while ago stops being so which makes me question my previous perception of the certainties I had before, a friend of mine calls it evalution which is a scary word or assesment which is even scarier because it involves introspection, dark nights of the soul and giving yourself point good and bad. Honestly. That is scary too. What if I fail? So that is what some of my confusion is about.
[quote comment="117860"]Watch,
Confusion can also be when a person is confused and also confused about their confusion. To make it worse the person may not know that he/she is confused about their confusion.
If the person does not know that he/she doesn’t know that he/she is confused about her/his confusion, that triples the confusion and multiplies the ignorance….
So,I prefer my good old comfort zone where everything is familiar even if boring….
Don’t take me too seriously…[/quote]
Dear Dinich,
My head is spinning ..”a person confused about their confusion and not know?” lol….if they dont know they are confused what does it mean? why dont they know?…I am truly confused now, if someone doesnt know they are confused there will be ignorance, there might be undiagnosed madness they also dont know about, but I am not a doctor so I only say might. What do you think?…It looks like one of the cliche in thet list of cliche but not sure which number maybe?
Dear Anon….
Thank you for the quote, reading your quote I am thinking now whether I am confused or.. was it you you mentioned change and fear once?…
[quote comment="118015"]Something I just read, and thought relevant to the subject here.
“don’t be afraid to be confused. periods of confusion…about this, about that…are really periods of thinking and sifting through experience. at some point the fog lifts and the confusion recedes. and then there will be confusion about something else. it’s a learning thing. and it’s lifelong.”[/quote]
Dear Justme…
I agree, denying confusion is just conpounding it and you never find out because you denied it. I regret not telling how confused maths made in school. I spent nights and days figuring out mathematical equations because for some horrible faith my family and schoold friends were good at it and I didnt want to be any different. I was good at other things but I wanted to be good at the same thing everyone around me was good at.
So I never asked my cousins or friends which had more aptitude for it and tried to look as knowing as they were which dint fool anyone anyway. To pretend to know something either you dont know at all or know just the basic of it is terrible waste of time and ego. I have stopped doing ever since. Never learned enough about maths either so what did my denial achieve? it is beside the point I didnt like it and thankful I dont have to deal with it now professionally though still use a form of it ..Best to say I dont know or I know so little of it that it is not clear enough which has confused me. That way you either learn it if intersted enough or leave it. The same with life questions…I am going to borrow your motto…hate ignorance..hate denial except when it is in a defence agaisnt an unproven allegation…
[quote comment="117923"]Dinich..that was funny. i see your point….
most people when they are confused they know that they are confused but they just deny it. I have no idea why they do that. Admitting that they are confused is one step a head they are not confused eko….anyways these days everyone is confused for no reason……..[/quote]
C – so you admit the right of passage in your life is partly to blame for your confusion. Do you mind sharing the specifics so that a) those who are thinking about marriage can learn from your experience and b) those who are married can offer you advice.
Yea yea, thanks for the definition of assumption, you belletrist you…
Dear Anon…
Bless you, you make me laugh, ..yeah, my timing and the timing of rites of passages sometimes clash I swear I tell no lie they do, which is problematic because when things are supposed to happen at times has no bearing to whether or not one is ready for them or whether they were ready long before the date of the rite of passage…About marriage I cant give any advice yet, I could attempt almost married but it isnt the same thing right?….but yes back in the days at school which was a good while ago maths was confusing, in life, abrupt and unexpected change of environment was equally confusing though it was fun to adapt and challenge a new environment and learn about it with brand new rules and things until I would remember the old surroundings and the rules there, and then clash- clash between rules and clash- clash in my head too…well that is one source of my ever present you know what….
[quote comment="119417"]C – so you admit the right of passage in your life is partly to blame for your confusion. Do you mind sharing the specifics so that a) those who are thinking about marriage can learn from your experience and b) those who are married can offer you advice.
[/quote]
Yeah, sorry Anon, I couldnt resist…:)belletrist me lol…
I feel the need to quote some ebd from the streets of Debre Markos
he walked around saying “ye gebeyaw dingay, yaw dingay!” and to anyone who bothered to try and make conversation with him, he would just start to express his frustration of people trying to make things what they are not. he didn’t seem to care what the question he got asked was, or who asked, or whether even what the person said was a question… he’d just try his best to make you understand that ye gebeyaw dingay IS just dingay no matter how you looked at it.
may be he once tried to look at it other wise, and lost his mind. or may be, he found his mind is nolonger confused but can now see things for what they really are.
you just reminded me of him. that’s all.
I thought i was confused enough but I get confused more
Dear Confused person
This is so sad. What do you gain from writing these foolish things! why do you buy the lies of the enemy( satan)
Do you know that God the creator is a God of order and anot of confusion?
He created you to have a sound mind. Not a confused mind. Yet you take great joy in describing how confused you are in great detail.
What a pity.
Please stop this fruitless talk on how confused you are. It’s not funny! or amusing.
If you want to truly live, Then live for Jesus.
Then the scales from your eyes will be lifted off you will no longer walk in darkness. Amen!
Because Jesus is the Light of the world!
I also urge you to start reading the Holy Bible. For it is written heaven & earth will pass but the word of God is eternal.
Jesus said to his disciples ” I am the way and the truth and the life no one comes to the Father except through me. John 14:6 (NIV)
When you receive Jesus in to your heart. You will have life eternal( salvation) truth and also you will have a clear mind.
you might ask how does one recieve Jesus in to their heart? it is not that hard?
you have to have faith. How do you have faith ? You build faith through hearing the word of God. Salvation is by Faith not works. Faith in Whom? In Jesus Christ.
Witness, some of us dont believe in God
Think/know the bible is a book of legend and myth
Is it ok with you if we choose not to join your choir?
Hello Anon
I know many don’t belive in God. But some do. As a beliver and follower of Jesus I am called to tell the world about the life changing Gospel of Jesus Christ. I urge you to at least read the entire Bible before you say ” I don’t belive in God ” Begin by reading the Gosple of John. It’s not a difficult book and will cause you to ask more about God.
If you think about it God is too big for us to understand Him. He is a mystry. Yet we can’t deny His Love for us. Also This very communication is arranged by Him.
When I woke up this morrning I did not know that you would read my post and respond to it. But God did He knows Everything what we are going to say and how we are going to say it. He knows how many hair is on your head and my head.
I hope you have a bible in case you don’t have one I would be more than happy to help you get one. Again, I am sharing this with you out of love Anon Jesus said Love one another as I have loved you.
Thank you for reading
May Joy, Peace and Love be yours!
Witness,
I didnt know there was any law agaisnt expressing personal confusion, even divine ones.What is it so bad about it?…`puzzled`…
Be that as it may, I have never met Satan, lol, I can assure you and even if I did I would check and double check all that it was claiming, just like I would everybody else human or not human in this case? and friend as well as enemy. See lies cannot be told with impunity or flourish by anyone, if nothing is taken at face value and everything is checked and double checked. I hope we agree on that.
Witness, I feel you probably mean well but a confused mind is not an unsound mind.The two are vastly different.
I have a sound mind, and I am thankful for it everyday that I live but it is a mind that doesnt know everything and it is a mind that would like to know a little more than the very little it knows…if I wanted to be pretentious I would call it a mind that searches and questions, but I am not and I wont, but more importantly it is a mind that would rather be confused if in the process it can learn a little and become less confused. What would I gain if I pretended I understood the things I dont understand? I would still be confused the only difference would be I would be pretending that I am not.
This doesnt make much sense to me so I seek to ask .Even by writing this short article I feel I have learnt quite a lot unexpectectly, incidentally about myself, others, human perception…
Through it all I have been amused, I have beeen given warm generous advice some I have even taken to haert Grandma where are you? lol thank you again…that is to Granda
I have been misunderstood, I have misunderstood , I have been annoyed and I have annoyed some I am sure, then I have marvelled at the intuition of some Dinich Anon,Discobobulated thank you all and the generosity of some other of the contributors which are too many to mention and in all that I feel I have gained o different perspetive than my own and I feel it was a useful and to some level pleasant exercise overall.
Would I have gained any of this if I had pretended and stewed in my own confusion pretending to know when I dont in false pride and ego?…
I think as Anon alluded to it not all of us are religious people, and as far as faith goes I think I have faith, faith in fellow human beings, faith in thruth and justice and I have faith in my friends and the people I love, and I have faith in love and goodness and tolerance and I have faith in myself for the most part.
I may not be a religious person but I am a moral person though not moralistic. I have my own set of ethics which are not all that bad really and they are universally humanistic..So yes I have faith I would say. Thank you for the post Witness….
Anon…
I have adopted my old name once again as you can see…lol, thank you….
I like Hydaya much much much better. Makes you sound like a princess.
Like all the Sabas… I would think somewhere there is a song of her.
Hello confused:
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I am not a religious person either. I am a Christian and have received Jesus as Lord and Saviour of my life.
It’s great you have faith continue to ssek the Lord and He will revel himself to you and direct your life path.
God Loves you beyond measure. He wants to have a relationship with you as your havenly Father.
His word says …. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you. declares the Lord.
Jeremiah 29: 13-14
I use to live my life wondering and searching for life’s answer. I use to worry about my future in this country as an immigrant. I did my share of partying and dancing and It was fun for a while It was a phase. But the more I continued in that lifestyle the more I felt empty. so many years went by. but nothing changed.In fact things were turning for the worse. Then I prayed to God for help.
if you or anyone who is reading this post have not received Jesus yet. It’s not too late.
Just pray the following prayer with all your heart to receive the gift of salvation.
“God, I recognize that I have not lived my life for You up until now. I have been living for myself and that is wrong. I need You in my life; I want You in my life. I acknowledge the completed work of Your Son Jesus Christ in giving His life for me on the cross at Calvary, and I long to receive the forgiveness you have made freely available to me through this sacrifice. Come into my life now, Lord. Take up residence in my heart and be my king, my Lord, and my Savior. From this day forward, I will no longer be controlled by sin, or the desire to please myself, but I will follow You all the days of my life. Those days are in Your hands. I ask this in Jesus’ precious and holy name. Amen.”
You may or may not see any big change right away. But that’s ok God will show you the way.
OK confused I hope this was helpfull. God Bless you.
Witness,
Oh my Godddddd, how many times have I heared this ?…”I am not a religous person but I am a chrstian”lol…and bull ***t.
The last thing I want to see bernos is as another ground for religous battles. Pleaseeeeeee ,just, stop acting you have figured everything out.
No religous responses on how god loves me and i still have to see the light minamin …I have had enough of that …Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
booya ….lol winta.
Awww really sweet like candy:) thank you dear Anon Hidaya it is then,I didnt want to confuse Witness ..there is story to the name…Hidaya means present, and well one minute one can be a present and next minute demoted waaaay below not being a present, but I took a liking to the name and kept it…
Dear Witness thank you again, I am glad you found solace in God, I may not be religious but I come from religious family so I understand your need to a degree. Perhaps you were seeking change and religion is what appealed to you at the time and facilated that change. But it might not work for everyone, especially doubters, besides I am not even lost just an agnostic …
Incidentally to echo Winta’s question how can one be Christian or an active beleiver in any other religion and still be not religious?. Peace Love and Joy to you too…
you people are off your rockers. you probably think obama is the anti-christ, too. lol.
Leave witness alone this is part of his/her initiation duties to the cult it belongs to. Last week it was at da club this week it’s da word, next week it’s da bottle so let “it” be.
Damn I’ll probably get a preachin for this.
Truth Rocks
Tsegure
Love one another as I have loved you.
Eyessus Kiristos Yadnal!
Winta
God Loves You!
the sad thing is, witness, you probably think you’re going to your clinically psycopathic assumption of heaven because of all this religious galivanting and frothing-at-the-mouth-reciting-bible-verses circus show.
i wish you luck. best case scenario, you’ll just be fertilizer. worst case, well … maggots are hungry.
Witness,
Uh? Are you saying being confused is un-Godly? I’m not sure how you managed connecting the dots with religion. I think you’ve all the symptoms of a “born again christians” confusion here :=) Don’t you find sincerity in her writings that reaveles her deepest thoughts for you, me and others? Actually, the most confusing part of her writing to me was that she is “confused” but again, she came across someone who has very strong faith. Obviously, you misread her. It’s good to hear you found the right path that suits you,though.
Confused,
Poor you! You got beaten up just because you’re confused. You’re not allowed to be confused, Confused. We should demand “the right to be confused” amendment. Thanks for Witness letting you stop by
Hello Toothpick,
” the sad thing is, witness, you probably think you’re going to your clinically psycopathic assumption of heaven because of all this religious galivanting and frothing-at-the-mouth-reciting-bible-verses circus show.i wish you luck. best case scenario, you’ll just be fertilizer. worst case, well … maggots are hungry ”
Oh my God ! Min new Ante? min aderegku? I just commented… just like everyone else
But you took it further and went crazy with your attacks!
sure our bodies will turn to dust after we die. Our soul will live FOREVER! The question is where will you spend eternity?
If you repent from your sin and receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. You will be with God in heave for eternity.
If you reject the gift of salvation through Jesus Christ and die you’ll be eternally separated from God your creator.
You have a choice? I hope you’ll choose Jesus Christ Toothpick He has paid for mankind’s sin at Calvary 2000 years ago. He is Medhanialem.
God loves you and wants to have a realtionship with you. I urge you to read your Bible.
I will be praying for you.
Grand Ma
Uh? Are you saying being confused is un-Godly? I’m not sure how you managed connecting the dots with religion. I think you’ve all the symptoms of a “born again christians” confusion here :=) Don’t you find sincerity in her writings that reaveles her deepest thoughts for you, me and others? Actually, the most
We are all human we get confused. I didn’t say “Confused” is unGodly. I just pointed a way out of her confusion. Which is Jesus Christ.
That’s all.
I am not into religion I am born again. If you would like me to explain what born agian I would be more than Happy.
Thanks for reading.
If you are a real follower you should respect one of the greatest gifts of God-free will.You have told us what you want.Now,let us make the free choice on wht to do.
PPL ,please don’t ask for more explanations on the topic as it will never end.
Dear Grandma good to see you again:)it gives me the chance to thank you for your kindness past and present, wisewoman you! …
You know Grandma of all the contributors you were the most subtle in gently pointing out to me that perhaps I needed to change, or unlearn the old, an slowly slowly I am..
Grandma you were born to give good advice. Subtle, gentle and kind in your manner ..and thank you GM for not patronising me too. Now this *right to be confused amendment* tell me where and who do we lobby for it and I will be there….and thank you again…GM before I cause any more confusion, I resurrected my name I am Hidaya
Witness….
Which one? there are so many thruths…and can my truth rock too or is there jst one place for one thruth?
Learn from Grandma, be subtle in your advice giving/preaching, GM doesnt preach, she does give good advice though…
If people dont want to be preached at/to, and they tell you so politetly refrain from doing so, because if they did and you paid no attention to their wishes what does that mean?,..dont impose on people it makes them run away for the most part and accept that others may not want to listen to your views or message, live and let live…and I still dont get it, how can you not being religiuos when you beleive and practice religious dogma?…about to get confused all over again now…Peace…
Witness,
May be you need to go back and read your original message. You were attacking her by saying….”What do you gain from writing these foolish things…”. I guess, she’s a victim here because you just wanted an excuse to bring your obvious agenda. STOP “i’m not into religion” ranting. Please, have confidence what you’re believing in, 2nd, Nobody is questioning your religion, 3rd, Nobody gives a damn.
Dear Confused person
This is so sad. What do you gain from writing these foolish things! why do you buy the lies of the enemy( satan)
Do you know that God the creator is a God of order and anot of confusion?
He created you to have a sound mind. Not a confused mind. Yet you take great joy in describing how confused you are in great detail.
What a pity.
Please stop this fruitless talk on how confused you are. It’s not funny! or amusing.
If you want to truly live, Then live for Jesus.
Then the scales from your eyes will be lifted off you will no longer walk in darkness
Witness,
What Grandma is describing to you is called inference. Read this first paragraph of your post to me and tell me if you havent inferred that confusion isnt un-Godly?…anyway I am not going to the ins and outs of it, but the inference is there…I wasnt gonna say anything because there is only a limited amount of time I can dedicate to de-bunk assumptions but it is there…
Forgot to thank Grandma, ,sorry…thank you GM….
Next thing we know Witness will say “I am Jesus”
Winta
Yes God has given us free will. He wants a relationship with His ppl. He is waiting for us to come to Him and receive the gift of life through faith in Jesus Christ.
God will never push Himself on ppl. We are free to choose. Our choices will either bring us back to Him or separate us from Him.
I am not pushing anything down on ppls troat I am just blogging like everyone else. There are many ppl who comment on this blog yet their comments and response are somewhat accepted. But when I say something some ppl are ready to attack with words.
Hidaya,
You’re very welcome! You chose intersting name.
Hidaya
I did not mean to attack anyone on this blog. I truly apologiaze if I came accros like that. I am just sharing Jesus with others. If You dont want to read my responnses or comments just ignore them.
May God Bless you
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Next thing we know Witness will say “I am Jesus”
lol
imagine that ?
Who would Jesus be then?
Hi Grandma…
About the nick I didnt exactly choose it, it was once given to me in an exercise in flattery i think, not sure I ever beleived it but it is a soft name even gentle and little to do with history or the Bible, for that there is real life names…lol…mine will make yo think oh dear God why?…
Witness God bless you too, and yeeah I will drop itnow, but if not attacking then at the very least you used my post as your introduction. I am not sure what I feel about that but I said I would leave and I will and thank you for the apology… now if you could explain something to me please…why do you think it is upon you to spread the gospel?…cant people be trusted to find their God if they so want?…there are many things I would like people to beleive in but I dont feel I have to coarce them to do so. if they seek they will find it..so why?
True, it is not God, mostly it is God’s people doing the pushing and the choosing.In God’s name and all..
I think I said something along the line of your friends are lucky to have you somewhere, sometime when you were C. So it’s true. Show me where to co-sign.
It sounded to me more Arabic than anything, it may still be, not sure. Soft and gentle describes what you put up here as well, your friends know you best, better believe it. Make sure they also make you feel as you make them feel, otherwise I’d question it, I would be confused as well.
Btw, I am politicked out. I am turning my TV off. Wake me up when its my turn to vote. I will only watch movies if I turn the TV on, no news, no commentaries.
Awww Anon, sharp sweet and gentle that is you..yeah we would make good mates so we are both co-signing:)…
You are right A, the origins of Hidaya is Arabic but it is a word as well as a name bastardised from the original in other languages too I think.
About friends, I find the ones who understand are the best, not too long ago I used to think the ones who loved you the best were the most important, someday I might tempt fate and move on to the once who love ,understand and accept, see baby steps..:)…
Sometime November is it? yeah, I will be like a Swiss clock lol, here no politics, except the politics of the buffons which no one takes any notice of it anyway, we live precariously thru your pre election politics and stuff,lol, it all sounds bigger and more dramatic than anything that our politicians have to offer, for now here it is the economy, slashed interest rates in the US, no money for the high street banks to lend for mortgages, the Bank of England intervening and all that giving us nightmares…happy movie watching.. we have a four day long weekend and rain and sleet to look forward to soo, I am taking the lead from you, movie watching it is then…
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Hidaya, rainy day is a good movie day, even better if its sleety. Thats when I tell my little devil, you idiot, keep us at home more often. It didn’t rain here, but spent more than usual indoor hours—it’s Easter. Watched my a little over a year nephew play with kitchen utensils as well as open, enter, and close cabinets in the name of what I don’t know, but he seems to observe and enjoy solemn moment in darkness. Watching him make friend with darkness and me trying without success to make connection to the only words he knows—gega—highlighted a weekend. Beats my shock and horror at listening to a good friend recite his pastor’s sermon: ‘unlike Mohammad, and Buddha, Jesus is the way, the truth, and the light.’ I suppose I didn’t miss anything by not going to church. Watched Forest Gump again for the I no longer recall times. My favorite line from the movie was ‘my mama told me life is like a box of chocolate….”. Now it’s replaced with ‘my moma told me you gotta put your past behind, before you can move on.’ Uttered right after Forest runs several times non-stop, coast to coast, east to west and west to east for a span of about 3000 miles, it made me think that it take a lot of work to leave a past behind . You said ‘my past is part of me’,
Betta get yourself ready to swim across the Atlantic—the English Channel is not enough– back and forth more than a few:). If you’re or become as determined as Forest, you gonna be just fine …
On this thread I also think you got the best advice from KT and Grand Ma. One said change and the other said something like you will have to just live on until you hit a wall and then change becomes a must. And Confucius (‘… the size of a question mark’ lol) said: experience is something you get after you need it
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I dig you on the love, understanding and acceptance part. Without the latter two, love is selfish, what can you do for me, what can I get from you, an exercise in how many ways can I hit it.
That humor you got is wickedly subtle, who needs a laugh when a smile says it all.
The empire is coughing now, take your tea so you don’t catch cold… too late.
Hi Anon…
Isnt it nice when the wheather person tells us to stay home and out of harm way ie the elements?, I noticed they tell us this when it is public holiday and everyone is home for Easter anyway…it never happens on the working week lol…
Aww Anon your little nephew sounds pretty energetic,sweet too:) funny how all little children like opening and closing cabinets for quite a while at times,.. like this open cabinet, close cabinet, look up ,laugh haha, start all over again, never got which part that amuses them most lol, bt they are funny and sweet doing it…
Oh well vicars have a job to do dont they? some of them do it responsibly and some politick and create controvesies where infact their job is to inspire faith and goodness, people who work for God do contradicting things at times…
Here mostly our vicars and te Church of England in general concentrate of the light that was Jesus and the Easter story and leave other lights in other religions alone. Mostly no one is confrontational about faiths here unless a political point is being made about a particular religion. And on religious festivals whichever they might be both vicars and government try to be responsible and concentrate on that faith and its day. It nicer that way. Mostly we eat candy and laze around this nations is not big on any God or its worship, bt on Easter usually there is a rc between God people and Human Fertility people this year or tlast year the stem reserch people and God’d people…so it is interesting like that, lol…
After one more adaptation of the Easter story I moved down to 2 movies totally different one is Maria Full of Grace, a Colombian movie about the drug industry and the other is Central do Brasil a gentler movieBrasilian movie ,and then this morning I read an extract of a book written by a journalist+adventurer how he fell in fall with a female assasin who killed at last count 27 people before she was killed , very intersting article, today is more Easter stories I think…
Yeah KT spoke of my unmentioned fear of having to accept thing without having understood them or have shaped them and Grandma told me what I needed to hear which was well understand and have the courage to change what needs to be changed,…yeah good advice I thank them both….
Yeah for this year I have decided to be understood is much more appealing to be loved becuase understanding might lead to acceptance, love is supposed to lead to many other good things it is just sometimes it doesnt and it doesnt rule the world either or win the day to quote a cliche, no two cliche` and is a bit dismaying to find this out, so for this year I choose understanding, lets see if it works lol…
Anon, the only Empire there is your one, really this is tiny insignificant island whose foreign policy is made in the US which is why we are obsessed with your pre- elections and who eventuallly becomes President, so that is why…Here is the link to the female assasin story…
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/i-fell-in-love-with-a-female-assassin-791978.html
I was referring to the most ‘humane’ empire to ever grace this planet, not the dead empire turned a puddle.
I think you’re quite right to assume I was referring to a non-existent empire because here at least if there is talk of empires its about the dead Latin and English empires. I think over where you are you may spend more time talking about this one… I know the economist never misses an opportunity to mention that when the American empires coughs, everyone catches cold. I like how they are so original and repackage their empire lingos.
I read the love and assassin story… nice how he gets to cover a war story and mix love in there. I think most others only mix sex. This guy puts love in the mix… why? Inexperience or his other unique situation? And what’s the other side of the story he is not telling, the rational for the girl getting close to him? Money, status, love? tells you where my head was reading the story..
I hope you enjoyed your break. I didn’t think you would have official off day for Easter. Non of that here except for students in the form of spring break
[quote comment="137641"]I was referring to the most ‘humane’ empire to ever grace this planet, not the dead empire turned a poodle.
I think you’re quite right to assume I was referring to a non-existent empire because here at least if there is talk of empires its about the dead Latin and English empires. I think over where you are you may spend more time talking about this one… I know the economist never misses an opportunity to mention that when the American empires coughs, everyone catches cold. I like how they are so original and repackage their empire lingos.
I read the love and assassin story… nice how he gets to cover a war story and mix love in there. I think most others only mix sex. This guy puts love in the mix… why? Inexperience or his other unique situation? And what’s the other side of the story he is not telling, the rational for the girl getting close to him? Money, status, love? tells you where my head was reading the story..
I hope you enjoyed your break. I didn’t think you would have official off day for Easter. Non of that here except for students in the form of spring break[/quote]
Sorry for the duplicate. Something happened… I see no reason to explain.
Okay I am really confused by all the comments people have been making about Confused’s status of his or her Confusion.
Now I am more confused.
Click.
I am Confused.
Confused, I am.
I am, Confused?
Wait what is comma doing there?
I am so confused.
Oh…no…no more confusion, please.
Hi Anon…
Dead empire turned poodle lol, I like this phrase, I will tell you a secret Anon, many Britons ie the white ones ie the English only because there are white Britons are embarrassed by any mention of their old Empire, good thing too I say, but that is only the Liberals and the non racists whites, you can imagine what the non liberals racist think, but as long as they just think it, and dont say it and cant bring it back I am fine with it .:)..and yeah when we talk of empire first we mention Rome ,how it fell,then the US and it might fall sometime after we all die,or the next few years, there is no precise date as to when the US empire is supposed to fall, the Chines Empire being born, maybe maybe not, it goes on and on we dont really pay all that much attention to it…
He doesnt say it in the short extract, it might be in the full book, he does mention he met her in a bus on her return from a shopping trip but she was paid killer presumably she would be paid for that?…it sounds like she loved him or at the very least trusted him enough to confide in him and it seems she paid attention to his suggestions to leave the guerilla organisation she was employed by….
I was fascinated how his own perception changes of her..form thinking sexy killer girlfriend wehehe which almost sound like the stuff of fantasy to later questioning her job, her reasons for doing it, him almost condoning it, and losing the perspective he had as an outsider and adapted to the views of the side of the conflict his GF was…I dont know I cant wait for the book to come out…he was gutsy though, if a man told me he was a hired assasin I dont know what I would do. Mostly I would be scared and wait until his back was turned, then make a run for it as fast and as far as I could…lol….
Anon you dont have a break for Easter? ohh, I didnt know that, here everyone was on a break starting from Good Friday to yesterday, it is usually a four day break on Easter and yeah I had some enforced rest which I actually needed …have an interesting day Anon:)…
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