I started writing an article this morning about email etiquette; you see I have a few friends I email constantly. Then I realized that I have already scripted my feelings.
This one girl, who is a platonic friend and have been exchanging emails with me for about 4 years now, recently changed her style. Those long emails she used to send have been getting shorter and shorter by the week. By summer time, it got short that my emails to her were getting in her ‘no reply necessary’ folder.
Here is a rule of thumb for those of you that are no email savvy. If there is no CC, it’s a direct email and it needs a reply; if there is no need to reply to it by an answer, you need to send confirmation that you received and read the email.
A simple one to two words is fine. Ok, Got it, Thanks, Fine and Cool are perfect. If you are really swamped for time then skip the word and write the letter ‘K.’
That’s it! reply confirmation is always necessary!
Published by November 18th, 2009 in Advice and Open.
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K!…lol
@ Wurgatu:
K! haha!
Got it!
lol.. thanks you guys!
thx
I do feel you Nolawi!
Thank you Nolawi, for the info.
hahahaha.
I think it was on bernos that somebody once said they received a thank you card for at thank you card they sent.
some emails just require no response.
^ how is the reader to know that the email was received and read..
^ Why does the sender need confirmation that the email was sent and read? If you don’t get a rejection notice from your mail server or from the recipient’s server, then you should just assume they got it and read it or simply deleted it. There is too much that comes through email these days that replying to every single one of them would require hiring a full time Mexican boy.
Kwel…
it is also a good habit to reply a very short tiny acknowledgment reply in work places as well.
In TCP (reliable communication), they use ACK message back to the sender…(where the setting is sender and receiver), i don’t know if the analogy is good
Nolawi
You know they will get it unless you get a “failure message” .ende kemeche jemiro new email postabetochu matfat yejemerut ?You are begging for an email commitment eqo .A few weeks ago you wrote something about not picking up your cell phone unless it’s definitely someone you want to talk to and prioritizing your calls .Maybe she was prioritizing her emails and you were not on the top of her list .
qoqisha
don’t get nolawi started on “joke etiquette” .
Nolawi wrote:
i assume u mean ‘the sender to know that the email was received and read’.
Ok, let’s go geeky. Let’s call the original sender A, and original reader B.
Suppose the reader’s (B) response was ‘k’. Now how’s B supposed to know that A’s got the response? By your logic shouldn’t A have to respond back to the ‘k’ with the ‘k to your k’. And how long do you anticipate this ‘k to your k to your k to your k’ to go on before everybody’s happy?
Methinks your problem is that you just want to be the last person w/ receipt ;-p
A demonstration (w/ proof, hahaha) of the problem: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two_Generals'_Problem (let the messenger getting attacked = the recipient accidentally deleting email prior to reading)
Tobian (15),
LOL @ And how long do you anticipate this ‘k to your k to your k to your k’ to go on before everybody’s happy?
Nolawi, I think this is more that a platonic friend. You wouldn’t have care if you didn’t care so much
lol @ tobian…
imagine if we had to ‘K’ every email we get, eh?
. wrote:
haaaa!!!!
lol i am so sure she is platonic..
completely.. platonic…
she is stubborn
and negeregna!
Lol@ Tobian wrote:
I remember I was interning in a bank long long time ago
& our boss used to get soooo irritated over emails he received from his reports … OK .. will do .. I’m on it.. We used to hear him swear in his office “of course you should freakin be on top of it!” etc (in a more colorful language mind you but he gets over a hundred emails everyday so I guess can’t blame him 
Tobian wrote:
LOL Tobian. Methinks Noli would still take an issue with a simple ‘K’ response even though he claims that would be sufficient to satisfy his curiosity to find out whether the intended recipient got the sent message or not. What is ‘K’ anyways? (I mean I know it is to say ok but you get my drift). In reference to which line of my email would ‘K’ be responding to? Has the two email exchangers established that the code word for email receipt confirmation would be ‘K’? I mean after all Noli is talking about ‘etiquette’ right?
In my humble opinion I don’t think the real issue here is what the title suggests “Confirm Receipt”.
Nolawi wrote:
I think at the heart of this article is the above paragraph. It is not so much the confirmation but rather the continuation and the pattern of what he was accustomed to have changed in his eyes and he is questioning why her style has changed and/or simply feeling neglected.
Noliye surely, based upon what you said in the above paragraph, would you honestly be satisfied if Ms Platonic typed ‘K’ and pressed sent your way? Ahun mayemut that will do it for you?
I think not.
I think a good rule of thumb when it comes to email is that first to know that your email has been received (note not necessarily opened/red) at its intended recipient mailbox unless you receive ‘Mail Delivery Failure Damion’ response informing you that your email has not reached its destination (it could be due to wrong address/email size in caes of attachments or simply in active accounts)…in the cases of a repeated email contact that never resulted a response recheck the address (you may not necessary get failure in delivery message if you mistype address and it is going somewhere but not where you intended it to so it helps to check) or the status of the account with the owner of the account. Me thinks this is basic email 101 and any email savvy person would know this
But the most important rule of thumb is to not assume every email needs or requires a reply.
haha hahah ahahah ahha betam betam enlightening .. you are very observant.. lol!
@ Tobian:
You got a point. But still, i feel his pain. sometimes ladies ( yes, ladies )have a big problem. what you should understand is this person A is sending something out of good will. giving him back “oh i read you email …. ” won’t hurt anyone. i don’t think it’s a “wanting to be the one who got a response at last.”, you know why ? because he didn’t say, ” i don’t want to be the first to email her and get ignored ! ”
we can see it as, you met someone on your way to a coffee shop, someone you know, if he says something won’t you reply to him ? or you just listen and leave…