Shitty News 38 Comments

I am a calm person, and I would like to think that some really bad news is not going to rattle me too much. Sometime the news is anticipated and sometimes is unexpected.

When its unexpected, I get shocked but I am calm, I would wait for it to sink in. So it takes a while to for me to get really upset by it.

Ten hours later I would be like,

oh sh!t, I can’t believe this sh!t, SOL

One of my not so good friend is seeing a therapist, although he can’t afford the 130$ an hour twice a month at this time; he has said that it has done his anxiety attacks so much good.

I deal by venting and talking to my friends and family. I tend to put to much pressure on myself, I generally think positively and hope for the best.

I have made some big mistakes in the past, things I regret and things I don’t regret. Right now though I am thinking life is just so much bigger than day to day issues that big enough to affect your lifestyle.

The Secret

I am not much of a self help type of guy. I think the art of power thinking is over rated. It does not change real-world outcomes.  You can’t think your way out of a bad car accident, but power thinking specialists claim that things happen because you think about it happening.

By the same token, positive thinking; glass half full optimism or half empty pessimism does in fact have affect your life either positively or negatively.

I am reading a book called the secret, via my mothers recommendation. And I have seen positive outcomes in thinking positively at least in others.

The recent bad news I received was unexpected and it might spiral to be a worse situation for me personally but I am thinking positively that maybe this is a blessing in disguise.

It’s OK, I will be OK!

38 Responses to “Shitty News”

  1. 1 Hilbet

    Shitty news about family and close friends get me all worked up. As I get older, I have learned to get less upset over things I have no control over.

    Btw, I never get the glass half full/half empty thing…I look at it the Habesha way, it is just half (gmash/frqi). This makes a person neither an optimist nor pessimist. It just is what it is!

  2. 2 helen

    Nol, sorry to hear about your bad news. Hope it gets better for you, man.
    I am the same way dealing with bad news. I dont panic or over-react. Someone once told me I am emotion-less “anchima dingay nesh” but that is not the case. When something bad or unexpected happens to me I am always thinking what my next step is. Since I can’t change what happened, in my mind I am thinking what I need to do. I don’t see the point of getting hysterical over things I can change.
    And I think The Secret stuff is crap. It basically implying all the bad stuff that happens to you is because you are not thinking positively enough. Tell that to all the poor and hungry people in the world, the people in Rwanda, in Darfur. What utter bullcrap.

  3. 3 Anonx

    Hilbet, leave the glass at half, come back in a minute, will you find it at 3 quarter full or at 3/4 empty vs. at quarter to empty or a quarter full… hehehe I am confusing myself as well. Is the glass emptying or filling when the mark is at half or anywhere for that matter? Is that son of bitch who found you half decent draining or adding to your life? (its friday and i’m bored at work, ur lucky day)

  4. 4 Hilbet

    Anonx LOL, I’m bored at work too!

    It’s still half…and if there is 3/4 in the glass then there is 3/4 in the glass. I don’t know, stop confusing me eski.

  5. 5 Anonx

    Hilbet, please look to the past and the future. Is the glass at half cuz you’re drinking from it, or is it at half cuz you are pouring on it. one way its down to being empty, and the other, on its way to being full. (u dont get it now, I’ll start a class for this. Alternatively, did the glass get to half from being full, or from being empty. From full, its half empty, from empty, its half full. lol

  6. 6 Hilbet

    Oh my, I forgot I said I don’t get it. Ok, I meant to say I wanna believe it is just half. I do get the message eko…poor thing, I thought your getting just confused and didn’t really think your confused in trying to explain the analogy to me.

    What if I found it half…I wasn’t the one who filled it or emptied it? lol

  7. 7 Hidaya

    I am sorry about the bad news you recieved Nolawi, hopefully it will get better…about bad news I go through a process ,get shocked first, then ignore for 24 hours, the time it takes to sink in then take action and find out how to deal with it….and I am a realist who errs on the side of pessimism, keeps away dissapointment…

  8. 8 Anonx

    Now I am getting intoxicated, dont mind though, I’ll sleep it off tomorrow. The Dala Lama would tell you, my daughter, now that you have found it at half, neither full nor empty from your perspective, where will you leave it? leave at half-full… typically do you drain a guy’s wallet? lol or do u leave it where you found it? or do you add value to it?

  9. 9 Sarah

    Nolawi, sorry to hear that…..tomorrow might bring you better things ………..

  10. 10 wudnesh

    Nol, ayzogn! Life is too short to spend a minute regretting stuff or worrying about what will happen next.

    ‘The Secret’ has some truth but has some misleading contents too. It stretched a little too far by implying humans have a god like power (as if our mind controls what happens in our lives)…sounded like a new-age teaching.

    Lemangnawum, you have all of us, ur not so good friends, uhu uhu, we will save you $130.00 ;)

  11. 11 luli

    sorry nolawi … ayzogn … try to surround yourself with good people, that always helps me even when I think i would rather deal with it on my own

  12. 12 bez

    Umm I used to do sales and one of the major rules they hammer in you when training is that “People do not mind bad news, they just mind hearing them as a suprise” will be suprised how much of that is true. But I hope your bad news turns into some good situatuion somehow.

    About the glass being half full or half empty, I think the glass is too big either ways.

  13. 13 chuni

    I hope all ends well with your situation Nolawi. The glass is ALWAYS half full. cuz thinking so will make you feel better and hopefully give you the peace of mind to come up with solutions rationally.

    I suck at dealing with bad news. when i hear bad news (if it’s not death ) i laugh. The odds of the unfortunate event happening over gazillion other outcomes amuse me. my car spun 180 in the highway and it stopped about 6 inches from the wall. I was laughing hysterically when i called my dad 2 sec. later. He was pissed that i was laughing. “ahun yihe yasqal? motesh neber eko” .

  14. 14 Nolawi

    thanks you guys,
    I am taking it positively

  15. 15 Ethio Jazz

    Nol…sorry to hear about the news you received. Glad you’re trying to see it in a positive light.

  16. 16 Walid

    Nol,sorry for the bad news.I dont like throwing around platitudes but “whatever dont kill you makes you stronger.” And beleive me you will come out stronger and much more confident.

    I am not so great either in dealing with bad news, but I survived some really serious stuff.And you will too,man!

  17. 17 saronm3

    i am one of those people who’d think and think till i get an outlet of releasing the bad news. now days i am begining to think like my brother. he says” its not some thing i can change, or its already done, so why worry” i don’t know how he does it.
    so nols, this is how i deal with bad news
    1. i cry if it is really that upsetting and that makes me feel better.
    2.i talk to my best friend.
    3.i try not to be alone, so i spend most of my time with people or i engage my self with some activities so i am busy.
    4. if none of the above works then i say to my self nothing i can do to change it anyway.

    besides, in time you’ll feel better, just hang on.

  18. 18 hewe

    Ayzoh about the bad news Nol.

  19. 19 Sarah

    Nolawi, this is my favorit verse in the bible he will take care of you if you belive.
    The Lord is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble; he knows those who take refuge in him. …Nahom 1:7

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    Hey nolawi! I hope all is well in yóur world. I am without a laptop for a few days so I couldn’t find your email addy. Thought I would find you here :) write back.

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