Weekend Marriage 67 Comments

I see her every morning in my commute to work.  She is a pretty woman; probably in her early to mid thirties.  I immediately recognize her.   I know her.  Not her personally, just her ‘Ethiopian-ness ‘— if there is such a word.  I always smile and say hi and she does the same but we never strike up a conversation, until one day last week when she sat next to me.  Like I sometimes do and like countless others have said to me before I say “Abesha nesh Aydel” she says “enem eko mesleshing neber, gin I wasn’t sure.” It’s a familiar conversation I have had it many times before.

We continued to chit chat all the way to our destination.  I found out she has been married for a couple of years and she has a 9 month old son.  She works in the day time from 8 – 4.  Her husband takes care of their son while she is at work; she comes home around 5:30 pm.

They have about a couple of hours together and he goes off to work and comes home at around four in the morning.  And they do this every weekday.  They only see each other a couple of hours a day.  But they are both off on the weekends.

While she is telling me her story all these questions are going through my mind. I felt a tremendous amount of admiration for their commitment and dedication.  We are probably about the same age, but I am single and no children.  The only thing I am dedicated to is Thursday night TV so I won’t miss The Office and 30 Rock.  Actually I lied; I don’t even do that anymore because now I can watch it online anytime.  But I suppose if I had a child I will probably do what I have to do to take care of him or her.  At least that is what all my friends with kids tell me.

Her story started me thinking about marriage long after I got off the bus.  Is marriage just an institution to raise kids? What about love and romance? How realistic is it for a marriage to succeed if you only see your spouse just a couple of hours a day and just on the weekends? Or could this be about a perfect case of absence making the heart grow fonder or is it more like out of mind out of sight? Could one have a marriage just on the weekends?

For me marriage on the weekend thing wouldn’t work for me.  Marriage is more than just raising children.   I am not saying I need to be with my man 24/7 but a couple of hours a day and just weekends wouldn’t work for me.   I need the romance, friendship, companionship of my husband, as well as time with my child and it would be nearly impossible to fit all that in just the weekends.

67 Responses to “Weekend Marriage”


  1. 1 justme

    i am sure these ppl if they have any and better choices they wouldn’t take “weekend marriage..” as an option.

  2. 2 biskut

    I don’t understand how you categorized thier marraige as a weekend marriage.A couple of hours a day is good enough to catchup on how the day went and to share a meal together .it would be ideal to share the whole evening together .You seem to be confusing friendship and companionship with “hanging out” .As grownups you will be lucky if you spend two full hours talking with your significant other .There is the house to take care of ,meals to cook ,errands to run ,checks to write ,mails to be check ,mails to be shredded phonecalls to be answered ,pta to be attended ,children to be dropped and picked ,laudry ,lawns to be tended and squeeze in social life somewhere in there .Ofcourse this would not apply to you if you are super rich with a maid and personal secretary but i am assuming that you are a regular jane just like me .
    If you are in your early thirties i advise you to look into marriage sternly .You obviously have no time to waste .It is a pity when a woman stays unmarried because of lack of oppertunity but it is a shame when she wastes her precious child bearing time just becuase she wants an ideal husband .You won’t find the perfect man with the perfect attributes my dear .In a few more years you will be looking for a man just to have a baby .Just keep in mind that in a few years your eggs will be off the market .In a few more years you might even settle for a man to high five on your way in and his way out .again please disregard this advise if you have the intention of being a spinister with no babies .There is absolutely nothing wrong with that decision .

  3. 3 Totit

    @biskut
    Do u have a weekend marriage?

  4. 4 gudit

    are you kidding me? you talked to this lady on a bus and you think you have figured out the depth of a marriage. what makes you think they are just staying together to raise their kid? how about they LOVE each other and they are willing to see each other couple of hours a day, while they work hard and save money for a couple of years… than spend the rest of their live in better circumstances. It could be a temporary situation. And that’s what makes marriage beautiful; you still have someone, even for a couple of hours a day when your going through rough stages of you life. People give up too easily on marriage this days. I think its beautiful how they are committed to each other, despite the circumstances.

  5. 5 Biskut

    totit
    You are a spin-ster aren’t you ? Not a spinster who has remained single but someone who puts a spin on things .This discussion is not about me.If you waste your time on other people’s personal life and not the issue at hand beware…because before you know it you will end up being labeled a dried up old prune who can’t get a man for one weekend .

  6. 6 kiki

    @ justme:
    you might be right. I don’t know anything about these people maybe this arrangement is perfect for them. That is why I asked the questions.

    @ biskut:
    You know perfectly well a couple of hours is not always a couple of hours – could be less maybe more other times. To me trying to fit in the “how was your day’s”, “how was mamush”, getting intimate etc… when you come home tired and your spouse is trying to get ready for work , seems a little stressful, to say the least. I am not saying it is impossible, I am just saying it can add to the stresses of marriage.

    But yene konjo, how can you make assumptions about what is good for me or what I need to do? You don’t know anything about me. It might sound a little disingenuous for me to say, while talking about people I don’t know, but if you notice I didn’t say anything about their marriage or their life, except what she told me. I don’t assume to know what is right for them. I just tried to relate their situation to my life. And that, my dear, I am an expert at and I know what works for me and what doesn’t. BTW, don’t worry too much about me, I will be just fine with my cats.

  7. 7 Biskut

    kiki
    i am glad that you read my very last sentence which said disregard this advice bla bla …..regardless i feel like i hit a nerve there ………:)

  8. 8 Totit

    Hummm Biskut u must really be having a bad day, or is it a norm…The way u unleash ur venomous tongue….and the way u distribute unsolicited advises…and U r telling me I get personal…Last I checked I had a simple question…. for u to feel this strongly about a blog, is as if it has ur name written all over it….Mene yalebete, zelaye ayechelem newe yemilew yagere sewe…
    No..I got it…u r PMSing on a daily basis…Thanks god I am way over menopause I dont have to deal with hormonal imbalance anymore…u know me being the old prune was right on the money actually…and it has its benefits…

  9. 9 biskut

    totit
    with all my busy weekend marriage and all it is a bit exhausting for me to always be right :)

  10. 10 kiki

    Biskut wrote:

    kiki
    i am glad that you read my very last sentence which said disregard this advice bla bla …..regardless i feel like i hit a nerve there ………:)

    I guess the sarcasm flew over your head….
    I got a pretty thick skin you gotta come better than that to get to my nerves.

    In all seriousness though cant you disagree with people with out being diagreeable?

  11. 11 kiki

    @ gudit:

    I didn’t make any claims about their marrage. I just asked a question, and you make a valid point.

  12. 12 mesraq

    ha ha ha i am dying of laughter… some women think that a women are only here to bear children. No not everyone should have kids.

    Not everyone should get married either

    look at stedman and oprah … they seem happy!

  13. 13 biskut

    some of you middle aged single ladies from bittercreek are congregating like a pack of wolves to attack my heartfelt advise .Mogne ke mekariw gar yitalal alu .I refuse to giveup .This obviously calls for another follow up advise ……

    To all the single ladies who smugly say “I have made my peace with being single ” “or ” i am content with being single or “I don’t need a man to have kids ” or rather “I am comfortable with my space ” bla bla bla we all know this is a coverup to hide your solitude from yourself and from the rest of the world .Firstly drop that self righteous excuse.Chasing after a career is not excuse enough not to settle down .Go ahead and climb to the top of the ladder and rake all the glory there is.In the mean time come home and reassess your haughty non compromising self ,turn of your tv and work towards a goal oriented relationship .If you are willing to unsettle for a perfect marriage you will be watching all the late night shows all by yourselves for a long long time .In the mean time all the good guys will eventually fall in love ,propose ,get married and leave you standing in your “space” feeling very independent ,uncompromizing and alone with your two cats .It is not too late and never wrong to be proactively involved in finding a husband when the goal is happiness .

    weizero biskut

  14. 14 Koki

    Weizero Biskut,

    Enough of your angst towards single women. Not every women willingly chose to climb the corporate ladder instead of searching for their soulmate. Perhaps, “that” shoulmate just did not happen, or these women ha to work to survive or to help their family back home (which is Ethiopia’s reality in most cases).

    You are quite misguided and may want to revisit your comments before you air them in a public forum.

  15. 15 biskut

    kiki or now koki
    “To all the single ladies who smugly say “I have made my peace with being single ” “or ” i am content with being single or “I don’t need a man to have kids ” or rather “I am comfortable with my space ””

    Don’t read everything in your terms .Read the above and note if it was adressing you or not .If it does not apply to you then don’t apply it .I was not bashing women who did not persue marriage for financial reasons .Again read carefully if it adresses you or not .you do not represent every single woman out there.I admit that i am spontaneous and might post stuff impulsively.That is who i am .I am not going to sugar coat it just to please you .compromize to other peoples perspective .believe me it goes a long way .

  16. 16 Totit

    I would like to appologies to the readers for contributing into making this place less pleasant…what can I say…It must be the bipolar-scezo personality lurking from time to time…

  17. 17 gudit

    @ biskut and Kiki,

    Really, lets be honest! I think people have a very high expectation, a happy ever after kind of prospect about marriage! Which is false. Marriage like any and every thing in this world has its pretty and ugly side! And even being single for the rest of your life isn’t that all great all the time! Both life styles have their ups and downs… its up to the individual to make the best of the life style they choose. There isn’t one right answer so please ladies lets stop bickering!!!

    P.S biskut

    In my opinion it’s very wrong to have a marriage for the intent of having a child ONLY! Why risk raising a kid in a love-less family?

  18. 18 biskut

    gudit
    You make a lot of sense.

  19. 19 Mamitu

    Here is some unsolicited advice from a woman that has been married for almost a decade and a half. Fight fair gals. It works for marriage so it should work for any other communication too.

    Marriage or no, it is my opinion that each individual should find what they are comfortable with. To each his own, be it weekend marriage, working together with your spouse(my personal favorite), single life, celibacy, …..

  20. 20 Corp Alumni

    Things heating up in here..!

    Biskut makes sense to me on this topic (to most extent) mainly because she is speaking from experience of being a Wro. It is my experience that the women that I come in contact with nowadays have an unrealistic expectation of marriage and are uncompromising. Also, the ones that have been here for a number of years have their culture confused and want to mix and match between abesha and western culture creating hybrid needs that no one, including themselves, understand. It is my opinion that a woman is the home maker, not in the classic sense of a stay home mom, but one that creates an ambiance of comfort, warmth, love and peace in general (..always wondered how this world would be if there were more female leaders). But today’s women have too much expectation from men..has to make x amount of money, has to drive a specific brand of a car, has to have gone to x school, come from x neighborhood….etc and not able to adjust to reality once they’re in it, whether it be dating someone or being married to one. SO, as Biskut said, they come up with stuff like “I have made my peace with being single ” “or ” i am content with being single or “I don’t need a man to have kids …”
    If you are a believer, even the bible discusses what a man and women should do in life…I know it was written 2000 years ago, but the fundamental concept is timeless. Laugh at women that want to wear the pants. It is not supposed to be that way. There is a reason that only women have the capability to bear children and be mothers…not embracing this gift of nature is, for a lack of a better term, stupidity!

  21. 21 biskut

    corp alum
    I applaud you for laying it out impeccably without hesitation.

  22. 22 Corp Alumni

    @biskut; thanks!

    It infuriates me when I read comments from laptop chicks with their lap dogs at Starbucks that are inclined to write un informed comments, having just watched a Tyler Perry flick.
    Marriage is not cakewalk! Nor is it unpleasant. It just….well, marriage! or whatever you make of it. People have become so flucking uncompromising, egotistical and inconsiderate and it’s all about ME, ME and ME! My theory is that some of us also have become stupid!…or are we watching too much TV?

  23. 23 kiki

    Corp Alumni wrote:

    People have become so flucking uncompromising, egotistical and inconsiderate and it’s all about ME, ME and ME!

    It is not only within the confines of a marriage that one needs to be considerate. A person could do just that in forum such as this. There is no need for name calling we can respectfully agree to dissagree.

  24. 24 tsedey

    kiki,

    it’s a good thing that talking to this woman made you ponder about marriage… nothing wrong with that.

    the flaw in your assumption could be when you say ‘this kind of arrangement wouldn’t work for me’- how would you know if you’re not in the situation? also, when you have a goal and you set your mind to it, anything is possible. Or if this doesnt work for you then, either you work from home, do part time, work four days… there are many options to make it work… it’s all about attitude and willingness to compromise and MAKE IT WORK. there are plenty of possibilities in the land of choice.

    besides let’s not forget this type of arrangement is usually temporary.

    believe me, even commuting with my hubs and child in one car and with pretty much same schedule and running errands together, time is still not enough- but i wouldn’t say -okay that’s it. this is not gonna work- Use your time wisely. Time management, multitasking and prioritizing are key in juggling career, family and social life. Atleast it worked for me for the eight years of marriage and it will continue to work, cos i chose to make it work!!

  25. 25 SelamT

    Biscut,

    You do not make any sense. What’s with all the anger?
    Calm down.

  26. 26 Selam2

    gudit wrote:

    @ biskut and Kiki,
    Really, lets be honest! I think people have a very high expectation, a happy ever after kind of prospect about marriage! Which is false. Marriage like any and every thing in this world has its pretty and ugly side! And even being single for the rest of your life isn’t that all great all the time! Both life styles have their ups and downs… its up to the individual to make the best of the life style they choose. There isn’t one right answer so please ladies lets stop bickering!!!
    P.S biskut
    In my opinion it’s very wrong to have a marriage for the intent of having a child ONLY! Why risk raising a kid in a love-less family?

    Well said!

    Wizero Biskut…relax and take a deep breath…u have some good points.

    @Corp Alumni
    “Also, the ones that have been here for a number of years have their culture confused and want to mix and match between abesha and western culture creating hybrid needs that no one, including themselves, understand.”

    Let me tell u I am so grateful for our “hybrid needs”… for knowing that I don’t have to live our “habehsa cookie cutter” lifestyle…for “CHOICE” not only about marrage…in all aspect of life.

  27. 27 Nolawi

    I for one agree with KIKI on this one… to many of you married people think your settled life is better way to live…

    If you are happy am glad.. but nothing is wrong with not having children…

    we all need a significant other but doesn’t have to be through marriage

    and some hubby wrote a comment like 3 years ago

    “a marriage for love is a luxury we can’t afford to wait for”

    ^ i completely disagree with that.. that is a stupid way to live.

  28. 28 Nolawi

    lol stedman and oprah mesaq – u always crack me up!

  29. 29 tsedey

    Nolawi wrote:

    nothing is wrong with not having children…
    we all need a significant other but doesn’t have to be through marriage

    good point. i agree with that as well. btw,co-habitation is being the norm these days with divorce rates going up, pple tend to cohabitate- which i think is cool too.

    motherhood is not for everyone
    marriage or cohabitation is not for everyone.
    choose what works for you.

    most of all, LIVE AND LET LIVE

  30. 30 Leo

    @Corps Alumni
    what makes you think everyone belives in the bible? you just need to go sit down with your stupidity and take Biskut with you.

  31. 31 kiki

    @ tsedey:
    You make a good point. But I know how I am and what will work for me and what I want.

  32. 32 Hilbet

    I can see why Biskut would be heated in her reply. Kiki sounded a bit judgmental although she is saying that type of arrangement would not work for HER. Kiki doesn’t know this person and she has labeled their marriage based on a bus convo as “weekend marriage”. I think the title you have given these people just sounds negative thus the negative comments. There are so many missing information to put that kind of label on other people’s lives. For this particular couple, quality could be more important than quantity. They are probably stronger and love each other because of what they have to give up for their new family. Who is to say the couple who hire a nanny, commute to work together come home together and have their weekends off are happy or in love or better yet, loving family? Should we call them “24/7 marriage”. The bottom line is, this works for them and from hearing their work schedule, it made you question what would works and is important to you. There is nothing wrong with learning from peoples experiences and such but you won’t truly know what you are able to do for your loved ones until you are put in that position.

  33. 33 tsedey

    kiki wrote:

    …but I know how I am and what will work for me and what I want.

    psychologists call this self sabotage.

    am not trying to convince or anything but be open minded and give yourself a chance. u think u know how you are but the truth is u don’t cos nobody knows themself until tested. i used to be in your shoes few years ago before i had a baby i thought i will be the worst mom, impatient, etc.. but once i had my baby i found myself completely different than what i thought i would be. it always amazes me what i think of myself and what the reality is. same thing applies in my life, work, school etc.

    am grateful for the challenges i faced in my life cos they made me who i am today and i’m proud of myself.

    this may be unsolicited advice to you but some souls may take advantage of it.

  34. 34 kiki

    Thanks tsedey, the advice is duly noted :D

  35. 35 tsedey

    ^ right on sister :)

  36. 36 biskut

    Nolawi
    you are very contemporary but i would not dare categorize you as modern .Only a foolish woman would agree to settle for co-habitation/roommate/friends with benefit kind of life .but then again to each his own ….

    Since i usually reply on impulse i might have sounded angrier than i really am .Kiki has grown up from the defensive side to “hmmm…let me think about it ” thanks to tsedey .What a productive discussion…..keep on talking guys…

  37. 37 kiki

    @ biskut:

    I was going to write in defense of my non-defensivness but that would have defeated the purpose :D

  38. 38 Corp Alumni
  39. 39 Corp Alumni

    biskut wrote:

    …Only a foolish woman would agree to settle for co-habitation/roommate/friends with benefit kind of life .…

    @biskut— well said! Most single ladies of child bearing age, looking and cannot find a man would not mind co-habitation/roommates fwb arrangements…because they have NO other choice. Remebmer, humans are not wired to ‘live’ alone. No honest (and sane/rational)woman would want to have this type of arrangement by choice. Once again, I go back to biology and remind all that nature has made us the way we are for a reason. Do you see any animals co-habitat or room with each other (i see a sarcastic response coming to this statement, but the point is…well, you know what I mean)

  40. 40 kiki

    @ Corp Alumni:
    Marriage is co-habitation with a licence. There is nothing biological about it. It is true some women choose to co-habitate because they have no choice but there are others who do it by choice.

    “Do you see any animals co-habitat or room with each other?” you had me rolling with this, good one.

  41. 41 biskut

    co-habitation without a liscence is simply idiotic and dangerous as much as driving without a liscence is .When you drive without a liscence you risk being penalized.The penalty has an impact on your ability to aquire a drivers liscence in the future .It is also a waste of money that could have been avoided .Moreover it stays on your history for some time thus resulting in undesirable efect on your future prospects.Apply the same theory to marriage hence the revelation of what is behind “why buy cow when he can have the milk for free ” .Those who moo-ve lol into this kind of arrangements are being taken for ride by an unliscenced driver.

  42. 42 Corp Alumni

    from reading the comments, it seems that most people are NOT enthusiastic about the institution of marriage (and some are downright against it!).
    I’m not sure why, but think it may have a lot to do with new “I can make it on my own…don’t need no man/woman ..” attitude. Not saying that marriage is for everyone, but have not, so far, heard a sincere argument against it and it all seems disingenuous and a big ol’ façade to cover up the failure to procure a competent partner…

  43. 43 Abeba

    I believe we are brought to this world to serve God and each other in any type of relationship (family, friendship, marriage, work, etc…). But our ego tends to take us on a different path which force us to do otherwise; like serve ME first.

    So, I think if we focus our efforts on how to serve others, rather than how to be served by others and ME, any relationship would flourish.

  44. 44 Wurgatu

    biskut wrote:

    but it is a shame when she wastes her precious child bearing time just becuase she wants an ideal husband .You won’t find the perfect man with the perfect attributes my dear .In a few more years you will be looking for a man just to have a baby .Just keep in mind that in a few years your eggs will be off the market .

    weyzero biskut,so u call this one a heartfelt advice????????…Tsidku kerto bekitu bekonenegn alu…zinjero wedelayi beweta kutir melata kitun yasayal…u secretly envied those who are “independently single” i think…i may be wrong but that is what i saw..sorry!!

  45. 45 biskut

    wurgatu
    sim yimerho legibr alu abba :)

  46. 46 Wurgatu

    biskut wrote:

    sim yimerho legibr alu abba …

    Hmmm…you make a lot of sense…gin that is what i was hopeing to show you…if you want to be heard boldy…advice with polite words…in the name of being blunt let’s not be arrogant..endenewu malet newu…sorry for the arrogance my dear!!

  47. 47 Dinich

    Ladies,

    Go get a husband and have children. Don’t let Oprah’s smile for a camera fool you.

  48. 48 Tobian

    Kiki,

    After reading the various comments from seeming married folks on this page, I’m tempted to side with you, but i’m going to have to stick with my original reaction after reading your post. Just as a background, I’m not married, I’m wrapping up my 20s, and unlikely to get married any time soon.

    There’s something you’re overlooking in the story you told about the woman. Marriage is not just about the good, fun, romantic days days where colors seem brighter and smells fresher. Well, a BAD marriage is just about that. A good marriage is about that AND the hard days. When times seem rough your wife/husband is the one who may step in and make the impossible bearable. I’m obviously not saying this from experience, but looking at my parents relationship, I’ve to say, they pulled through some amazing times. They have had some rough days, at one point or another one of them have had to go through school while the other supported the other, and of course they raised kids through all that. If they didn’t do it all together, I don’t see how it wouldn’t have been rougher and tougher.

    So my wish, to your friend, is that may her husband and her is that they get past their current hurdle to better days (assuming they didn’t opt for the current arrangement. Nothing wrong w/ that either … they may raise their kid this way w/o daycare. Some pple value that.)

    Beterefe, for Biskut et al … mttss… ayeee, ‘akkk intif’ ale!? Woman, numbers don’t lie. The majority of marriages end up in divorce, so screw your ‘diskur’ about “It is a pity when a woman stays unmarried because of lack of oppertunity but it is a shame when she wastes her precious child bearing time just becuase she wants an ideal husband” What are we … breeding machines? You got married to your not-exactly-ideal-husband so u can pop Biskutettes? And some of us are wrong b/c we’re not behaving like you? Gud iko new. Everybody, please saq awaTu … this is hilarious, except … it’s really not funny.

  49. 49 biskut

    tobian
    I like what you said about people opting not send their kids to daycare minamin .
    I know my comments were a wakeup call to your “seemingly ” independent life .In your late 20′s you are no spring chicken anymore. so you better start breeding because that is what God intended for you to do besides all the other purposes he intended .You know you want biskutees lol so get on it and quit acting like another scorned raisin.

  50. 50 Corp Alumni

    you tell em like it is sista biskut!

    the ‘seemingly independent’ forget one major element, which is the gift of youth (and time). Once you hit your late 30′s early 40′s, the clock starts ticking faster and faster and faster and faster and there is no way to beat time in this race. you cannot reverse it and will reach a point where you CANNOT have children or for that matter, even find a decent man/woman. Then, maybe you’ll get what biskut is meaning by her practical, real and realistic posts…

    ** above is intended to all those ‘independent and don’t need a man’/woman …**

  51. 51 leo

    Biskut, i feel sorry for whoever married(marring)you, you just stupid idiot woman who hate her life. God, where the hell are you from? do you even read what you writing? i mean you acting like you know what every woman wants…you sound like some fucking controlling freak who know everything…I think you just angry at the looser boyfriend you settled for making you miserable. Breath woman…and go get laid (hint: Corp Alumni).

  52. 52 Wurgatu

    biskut wrote:

    I know my comments were a wakeup call to your “seemingly ” independent life .In your late 20’s you are no spring chicken anymore. so you better start breeding because that is what God intended for you to do

    What if Tobian is a mehan? or what if her hubby is a mehan???….Yane like tobian said sak linawatalish newu??….you are amazing…mogn yashenifal min bilo embi bilo….!!!

  53. 53 Maria

    “There is a reason that only women have the capability to bear children and be mothers…not embracing this gift of nature is, for a lack of a better term, stupidity!”

    Wasn’t there a man which science gave the capability to bear a child all by himself a couple of years ago?

    In any case if a woman, biologically on her last legs wants a child badly enough and cant afford to wait to meet “the One”she can opt to have one without the need to marry the first unsuitable sperm donor on the horizon,that would make for a horrific marriage and she wants to marry but not breed but spend a reasonable time with hubby dearest in married bliss she can do that too, all it takes is the conviction that she can handle the consequences of whatever choice she makes that suits her most.

  54. 54 biskut

    wurgatu
    My posts do not adress woman who can’t have children for reasons beyond their control(mehan).Neither that it adress women who choose to be a spinster for life.It also is not tallking about women who opt out of having kids for financial reasons.It exclusively talks about the “independent ” women .

    Some of you simply call me control freak minamin well…I am using my God given capabilities to the optimum .I am not slacking or postponing or puting my life on hold .”Bo gize lekulu” ale tebibu selomon .There is a time to hang around,a time to fool around (although i was not the type ) ,a time to date ,a time to decide and settle and time to have kids .Science can come up with a lot of solutions to your problems, but i have yet to see a finding that can rewind time and make you younger .All in all my point is use your time productively .You should filter what you see on tv and use your best judgement .Abandoning apparent truths and core values seems to be a click away or a remote conrol away this days .between cultures is where you seem to reside.

    It is painful for me to watch “all the single older women ” outhere be cheated out of the wonderful role of motherhood and wife.Some of you here confuse your legal age with your real age.

  55. 55 biskut

    maria
    there was no man who gave birth to a baby.It was a perverted transvestite who looks like a man on the outside but is a naturally a woman in the inside .yet another proof that science can’t change Your nature .it can alter it but cannot change it .Don’t gooble up everything you see on tv .Remind yourself the tv networks depend on such explosive titles for thier ratings .find real news not opinions.

  56. 56 Corp Alumni

    ..woy gobexz!

    Leo, wugetu and Maria..how old are you 14?..isn’t there some sort of age constraint to access this site..if not, there ought to be…now goback to playing you PS3

  57. 57 Nightingale

    @ Dinich:
    Ufffff, afe kuret yibelelh.

  58. 58 SelamT

    biskut
    Apr 14th, 2010 at 6:53 pm
    Biskut
    Apr 14th, 2010 at 7:54 pm
    Biskut
    Apr 14th, 2010 at 8:28 pm
    Biskut
    Apr 14th, 2010 at 8:28 pm

    Biskut, where do you get the time to write? Husband is not giving you attention? Or is he cooking and taking care of the kids?

    Stop preaching you are boring me.

  59. 59 fikir

    Hulum beyebetu mistun eyebeda,ene bicha kerehu kolete feneda!

  60. 60 kiki

    @ fikir:
    besaq… a much needed levity up in here…

  61. 61 Maria

    Biskut

    Thanks for the tip about tv’s rating, I promise I will not gobble up everything I see on tv, incidentally I didn’t see that particular news on tv,nor the tabloids opinions I read it on what would be considered serious newspapers and a science magazine. A transvestite is described as a man who dresses in women’s clothing, incidentally different to a man who wants to be a woman though born a man or one that has gender issue biologically, the two are different incidentally.

  62. 62 Maria

    Corp Alumni,

    And your point is what exactly? censorship for 14 year old’s at Bernos? you don’t like computer games? you don’t like when an opposing argument to yours is being made and you dismiss that argument made it easy by convincing yourself they are made by 14 year old’s?, you’ve got too many issues going on in a two line sentence; who is childishly petulant now?

  63. 63 biskut

    maria
    transgender was the word i was looking for “incidentally “.This topic is getting old and unproductive like some of us around here .New day thus a new topic .Biskut is moving on …..cheers.

  64. 64 Corp Alumni

    No I’m not promoting censorship for 14 yo at bernos, nor is it my place to do so. I merely was figuratively speaking by comparing your comments to those typically made by the young (specifically teens), inexperienced and naïve. I consider this topic serious and assumed it would be discussed by a mature audience. However, some of the comments that I’ve read, including yours, clearly are uninformed, naïve and simply lacking substance…and yes, love(ed) video games, but outgrew them some time ago…

  65. 65 Corp Alumni

    @ Maria:
    No I’m not promoting censorship for 14 yo at bernos, nor is it my place to do so. I merely was figuratively speaking by comparing your comments to those typically made by the young (specifically teens), inexperienced and naïve. I consider this topic serious and assumed it would be discussed by a mature audience. However, some of the comments that I’ve read, including yours, clearly are uninformed, naïve and simply lacking substance…and yes, love(ed) video games, but outgrew them some time ago…

  66. 66 Leilt

    i’m just catching up on this intersting conversation, a simple observation drew a ‘preacher’ on the obvious who conveniently seemed to have forgotten that we hear it everyday from ‘concerned’ aunts & relatives “meche new yanchi serg” lol … have both guy & girl friends who are still looking for their better half, they’re not all corporate ladder climbers or pride themselves with ‘hybrid’ needs. some are even divorcees who refused to settle for a life of misery not because they didn’t want to ‘work’ on their union. some cases are hopeless cases folks! so let’s not generalize & stone those who don’t fit into our mold of play-house-&-pretend-we’re-o-so-happy when we know that’s not always the case.

    anyhew, thx for sharing your insight kiki ;)

  67. 67 liyou

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