Comments on: for granted

By: Dinich

Dinich — Wed, 20 May 2009 21:46:35 +0000

I am sure in practice we all approach things more or less the same way. But when u have to talk about it on a blog in one pragraph in 30 seconds, it may sound like we have big differences….

By: Kornise

Kornise — Wed, 20 May 2009 21:15:24 +0000

Everybody makes a good point, really. I guess the whole point is make some time for me and I will make some time for you… We all need to balance the time we spend with the friends, significant others and ourselves for some sanity sake.

By: Selam

Selam — Wed, 20 May 2009 16:41:33 +0000

Isn’t all friendship based on convenience though? Actually all relationships are based on convenience. Once I got married and had a child, my single friends and their dating lives were no longer relatable to me. My life was “diapers” and “day care centers” and theirs was “one night stands” and the dating game…At some point, I just had to let the friendship end and love them from afar.

By: biskut

biskut — Wed, 20 May 2009 13:24:08 +0000

I am not going to give up my individuality just because i am married .Frends are important weather you are single or married .If a friend wants to hang out with you or call you only when he feels like it, he is looking for medeberya and not friendship.
being taken for grated is sometimes good because that means they have confidence in the friendship.

By: yebolelij

yebolelij — Wed, 20 May 2009 08:57:52 +0000

“If friends are there through thick and thin, and if you consider yourself a friend, it shouldn’t bother you as much. True friends are there when they are needed, and give you space when you need it”
very well said doro

By: Nolawi

Nolawi — Wed, 20 May 2009 05:06:22 +0000

Oh a freind should understand when you only make him/her your freind based on convenience.

Betam arif, I am so glad some of you are not my friends. & I feel bad for your “based on convenience” friends.

By: Wudnesh

Wudnesh — Wed, 20 May 2009 04:14:30 +0000

Nol, if u have been guilty of same before, TRY to understand. The degree of error (that u didn’t completely ignore them like they r doing now) doesn’t matter. Having said that, I do understand what u mean. When one is married, his/her relationship with friends should change (priorities change)….but altogether abandoning friends?? That would make me question the state of our friendship in the first place!
If, however, it’s a matter of not keeping in touch (even avoiding friends and giving all our time to the ‘love’ of our life) for a short time, ain’t we all guilty at one time or another? The beauty of it is that friends understand

By: walid

walid — Wed, 20 May 2009 03:01:29 +0000

I agree with Tesdeay. It is all about BALANCING.Like everyting else in life, we need to balance our need for romantic relationships with that of freindship.There will always be a problem if we are trying to do one at the expense of the other.We need them both in life.And thus neve take for granted either your freinds or lover!

By: Doro Mata

Doro Mata — Wed, 20 May 2009 01:57:02 +0000

If friends are there through thick and thin, and if you consider yourself a friend, it shouldn’t bother you as much. True friends are there when they are needed, and give you space when you need it.

It is like any other thing in life. For example when you have an exciting project going and all your spare time is dedicated to it, or like with students, during exam time, or the final days of writing that thesis… you’ll need space, and won’t be seeing your friends as much. But that doesn’t mean you think less of them, or that you don’t need them… you just don’t have the time. People should be able to do that with their true friends, because they know for a fact that those friends are not going anywhere.

I don’t think the issue is as much with the friend who took you “for granted” as it is with you. Don’t take it to the heart and let it affect you. Are you lonely hun?

By: Rahel

Rahel — Tue, 19 May 2009 23:01:52 +0000

Dinich, you are totally wrong. Don’t get me wrong I am engaged to be married but I am not going to lose my “self” becuase I got marred, It seems to me those ladies who do had self image issues in the first place

By: SelamT

SelamT — Tue, 19 May 2009 17:51:56 +0000

Good subject,
I think girls are no better in this. It happens all the time when they are in Love they all forget about you and when they break up with the guy they suffocate you with their problems etc.
And wWhen they get married they totally forget you and think they are better than you just because they have a man.
Nolawi,
It happens all the time.
I see your point, you should not be easily available to guys like this. Don’t be their medeberya!

Friends should be important at all time.

By: anonx

anonx — Tue, 19 May 2009 17:49:50 +0000

I am parting ways with a couple of long time regular friends. Its a life style issue and a little sad

By: tsedey

tsedey — Tue, 19 May 2009 17:24:30 +0000

pple, it’s all about prioritizing and balancing…

You should always have time for your friends as you have for your significant other. It just depends on the amount of time u wanna give them..

I agree friends and family are the integral parts of one’s life besides the significant other and they should be given time- believe me it’s so much healthier than being hubby/wife clump in the name of marriage..

ladies, where do u go when u have guy problems?

Guys, where do u turn ur head to when ur wife “nags” u uncontrollably?

Correct me if I’m wrong but it’s either your friends or family… so why not involve them if your in happy days as well.

I can’t imagine my life with out my friends whether married or not.

However, the story will be differnt if the significant other’s friends are party animals or bad influences. Now that’s another topic.

They say “Tell me who your friends are and i’ll tell you who you are.”

By: endalc

endalc — Tue, 19 May 2009 17:08:15 +0000

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By: Dinich

Dinich — Tue, 19 May 2009 16:41:53 +0000

Nol,

Bible says: “sew abatunina enatun yitewal, kemistum gar and yhonal”

Wifey, hubby comes first…..everybody else follows.

If ur friend ignores you because he is in love, you should be happy for him. He must have it good…:)

By: qiya

qiya — Tue, 19 May 2009 14:14:32 +0000

I think freinds should back off when I’m busy with a new guy. I’m looking to get married. Not interested in having ménage a troi