If u dont mind I am curious to know how exactly God tells u to date or not to date….

I mean this seriously, after dating for a number of years…and thinking I could figure it out if I just used my brain…..I finally gave up trying to figure it all out. (Bear in mind, I’ve attended some of the most prestigous schools in this country – so I just “knew” that I was smart enough to figure it all out.)

Well, the more you learn….the more you realize that you don’t know.

I eventually decided that I would do whatever God told me to do. If he wanted me to date someone, please send me a sign. If he didn’t, that was cool with me too.

Remember, God created the family before he created the Church. The thing that God cares about most is FAMILY!

Even once you get married, you have to rely on God even MORE. If you thought dating was difficult, wait until you have to share someone else’s struggles. BUT, you also share their joys – and that’s what makes marriage such a beautiful thing.

Just make sure to rely on God – as he knows our hearts even better than we do! And pray a lot!!!!!!

Best!

They were serious. They said it did not matter if he was old, blind or missing any body part!

Lol I 100% agree with you…I know a girl who keep on asking me to help her find a ” husban” from the U.S….at one time she said jokingly ” yemote ferenji behonem enkwan felegelegne, eNe endemenem bEye asenesawalehu.” LOL

But I don’t agree with this one:

I will not call them “gold diggers” because not all who are importing are loaded with money.

Mostly our girls want to get a ‘husband’ from the U.S. or Europe not because to get the man’s money, rather they are willing to get married for the opportunity that going to the West brings.

Most of the ladies in Addis won’t hesitate to get married with a man from the U.S., even those from the “well-to-do” families……

SiTa

I enjoyed the article. Wow didn’t know that girl is Gigi’s sister. I saw her movie but didn’t know she sings. I just checked out her song and her voice is bad.
I couldn’t stop laughing when i saw the jet black hair of the old husband. What type of cheap hair dye are they using? I see so many old Abesha men with jet black hair.
who are they kidding? I hate that type of men. I love real men who have their natural hair with gray beard and hair. Look at the man he even dyed his mustache.
She needed to wake up and leave this old man who dumped his ex wife in the trash now he is wasting the youth of this new wife. When he reaches age 70 she will regret it.

http://arefe.wordpress.com/2008/08/16/charismatic-preacher-mired-in-scandal/

We shouldn’t forget to support the EWLA!! They need all the help they can get (office material ie. computer, books, and obviously $$)and you don’t necessarily have to be a lawyer. They are the ones at the front of this battle.

Selam T is very right. Education is the only exit! Do you remember the story of Meskerem.

how did we get from asmechinalaki to fikir be konchera..?

Don’t know, may be because gals are following the asmeChi to escape the one with the KonChera? Sounds like a pretty natural sequence to me

I have been doing just that and it gives me such happiness to see them and hear them talk about their school etc. The pay off and the happiness I feel is priceless!
It pays off in such a great way.
I could spend the money buying “stuff” I don’t need but this makes my life full…

How can we people in the Diaspora encourage and support the education of Ethiopian women?

I know we’re all contributing to our brothers’ and sisters’ education back home in one way or another but can’t help wondering-is there an organization or center dedicated to educating women- country women? A theme like… say Oprah’s South Africa Girls School? Am not saying as extravagant as that one but the theme. May be that’s one way to pool resources and focus on educating and empowering women(again am referring to country women cos theyll have significant impact on their community compared to Urban women.If one is educated, the whole village can be positively impacted.)-Just an idea.

Also, to educate individuality and teach young girls there’s more to life than being a wife and a mother. I know in several places including our Society that seems to be the only purpose in life for a girl-

I ask because even Western countries recognised stalking as an offence on its own only upto ten years ago give or take few years.

In many countries even in the West stalking used to be not a specific offence, especially if the harrasment is a pyschological one instead of a pysical one.

Before the law changed here a victim had to be injured pysically in order for an offender to be charged with Actual bodily harm or Grevious bodily harm, if they called you or text you about thousand times a day and it drove you mad there used to be no change of redress from the courts. Now of course stalking whether mental or pysical is recognised as an offence by itself.

I agree educating girls and giving them power over their bodies and minds is the key to break female victimisation, the men too need to be educated about unarranted attention and the harm it does to the recipient of that attention…a friend of mine sponsors two Ethiopian children’s education through Oxfam, I am gonna do the same, it doesnt cost much and it helps children in dire need…

I agree with everyone who said that stalking isnt about love, it is mainly about obsession and control, stalkers have no empathy and cannot comprehend the damage they cause their victims, they cannot handle rejection like normal people can and do make their victims pay for rejecting them, sometimes fatally, they also revel in their position of causing mayhem coz it puts them firmly in control of their victims…

why doesn’t he do all he can to make the girl happy since he cares so much about her? – including keeping her and her family healthy and well??

romeo died because the one he loved and who loved him back could not be with him because of circumstances he had no control over.

any type of love, and some death does not automatically signal romance! stalkerish obsessive physical and verbal abusiveness is NOT romantic with humor or without!

I saw the movie called “Hermela”. It was unbelievable. The guy was so abusive. The police said there was no evidence to go after him saying the threats and letter and physical abuse is nothing more than just a guy in love. It shows that the only evidence Addis Ababa police understand is a dead body or burned body like that girl that was burned by acid.
Let me tell you a true crazy story from AAU. A guy was living a great life doing well in school and he had a girlfriend that loved him. A professor started harrassing and abusing the couple. He claimed to love the girl and told the guy to stop being with her or even talking with her. He gave the girl low grades on the exams. He was verbally and mentally abusive. They thought they can just tolerate his abuse until they graduate and it would all be over with. They were wrong because he knew where she lived. One day he followed them around and saw them on a date in cake shop. He waited until the girl left the cake shop and he entered the cake shop where her boyfriends was still inside with his friends. THe professor argued with the boyfriend and I think the boyfriend was tired at that moment or because they already graduated he thought he can now speak up to the professor without fear of him giving them failing grades. Unfourtunately, the professor was a derg official as well so he owned a gun. THe guy didn’t know that so the argument about the girl was heating up and the guy threw his coffee in the professors cake. Then the professor pulled out his gun and killed the guy in front of his friends. The police showed up so late and the guy died in there. THey caught him the next day and he was jailed by the derg. when derg fell there was chaos in Addis. For a week there was no government so all derg officials fled their posts including those working for the prison system. So prisoners just walked out without anyone looking for them. He escaped the country so now nobody knows which country he fled to. I can i imagine him living life somewhere out in the world pretending to be a good man while his heart knows what he did in Addis. I wish he never returns under the new regime hoping to be asmechi husband becasue he cannot find an abesha wife in his new country. If he becomes asmechi hubby I fear for the woman who doesn’t know his past.

Romanticism is not rational.
Romanticism is reaches beyond or attempts to reach beyond societal values or the norm.

Suicide is not rational
Mutual suicide is not rational

poisoning your self for love is not rational

but romeo did it

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Sacrificing your self for the sake of honor- the samurai way is not rational

but it is romantic.

All I said the guy is romantic- the story is romantic -

Death for the sake of Love- regardless of the irrationality in the specifics of stalking is romantic.

If you guys were in the least bit educated on Romanticism you would agree

now go look at Liberty Leading the People

probably the most romantic painting in history

Death and Romance go like wings adn blue cheese

Nolawi, if that’s what love is bafinchaye yiwta .. just because he died while fleeing justice doesn’t make him a martyr. Lest we forget, Romeo & Juliet were in love!

tsepeace, I won’t be surprised if the gov’t is trying to suspend EWLA once again, if you read the Tadis story (I’m quoting below) they were temporarily suspended for their involvment in Hermela’s case too.

In 2001, the case of Hermela Wossenyeleh came very close to jeopardizing the EWLA. Hermela had been harassed for eight years by Negussie Lemeneh because he was infatuated with her. The harassment was so severe that he physically abused her several times, shot her in the face, and even attacked her younger sister with an axe cracking her skull open. Negussie was apprehended several times and for every offence he was sentenced to only a few months in jail. EWLA repeatedly contacted law enforcement officials to look into the matter but did not see any prompt action taken to criminally prosecute the perpetrator. Consequently, EWLA urged Hermela to tell her story on Ethiopian Television, which led to a widespread public outcry demanding justice. In addition to the TV broadcast, Meaza Ashenafi mentioned the case in an interview with a local newspaper. Following these incidents, EWLA’s activities were suspended by the Ministry of Justice for “acting beyond its mandate and code of conduct”. Outraged by the turn of events, EWLA, civic organizations, national and international non-profit organizations, businesses, scholars, and citizens successfully lobbied for the suspension to be lifted. The Minister of Justice was removed from his position and Negussie was sentenced to 18 years in jail. He was later fatally shot while attempting to escape from prison.

Load of bs!