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AGAIN – be advised that the owners of this website (bernos) reserve the right to delete any comment that is deemed inappropriate.

No explanation for such action is required and that’s final!

Obviously we should all be having a good time getting along, but difference of opinion leads to interesting discussion and it bring different ideas which is what bernos is about.

Gudu
The bottom line is that it is our blog/website and we get to decide what to filter out…especially if it’s comments that is intended to disrespect others opinion. So we reserve the right to delete posts made by people who are just here to cause trouble.

Be advised that bernos/contributors of this blog reserve the right to delete any comment that is deemed inappropriate.

Well said MindWithoutC in post #125

May be some of the responses reflect more our cultural shortcomings in the art of compromise than anything else.

But, my 2 cents, would be: BERNOS may add a reminder (you may already have, forgive if so. I have not finished cruising Bernos in its entirety yet) that:

“BERNOS expectation of bloggers:
-It is a friendly medium. Debate intensly, loss your mind, burst in emotions but be mindful of word choices so BERNOS doesn’t stink. ”

a sort of.

Gudu: bro, I may (i.e. may) come back to give you some free advices.

also we can’t block ip’s from commenting because people are going to from another ip and make theri comment…

there are a few people that are going to create headaches for a everyone… the way I see it we, all of us need to stand up to them together and they will go away…

second some comments can be deleted… if you tell me to delete all of gudus comments i will do so…

I have been blogging for a couple of months here now.

My observation have been:
-The 1st group: agree to disagree in a mature and respectful way. For me, these are the most advanced people who understands what Give-N-Take means. They come with the objective to give-N-take. To achieve that, the 1st critrea is respecting fellow bloggers. The end-result? a win-win baton.

Age has nothing to do with wisdom. wisdom has nothing to do with age or number. If one has a tendency to steal/lie at the age of 10, s/he will definitely do it again-N-again at 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 and going to that grave as such.

-The 2nd group have no objective at all. They just roam around like a wanderer dog as time permits for lack of what to do with their time and life. If that is not the case, they could have put their time and bloggers time in good use.

They lack wisdom, they don’t write good grammar, they spit no substance, they complain, whine, and insult and talk with so much bravado.

They only get away with that because,
a)their throat is shileded by the Cathode tube that separate them from the bloggers.
b) BERNOS does have a policy of tolerance the way I see it.

so, what options do the Decent people have, just fume and let it GO and move on!

If It was my blog, I definetly filter these junk out. Because, what is needed is quality and substance. No one has time for idiocyncrazy which can Not be re-defined even if it sliced-in-half and wisdom BiseGeseG. it will eventually evaporate with time.

Your insult being the most intense I have ever witnessed and too personal, I suggest you tone down to learn from fellow bloggers.

One changes one’s mind for the benefit of one’s own good. When one fails to see that, one fails one, but nooneelse.

“Farewell, goodbye! If we see you again don’t sigh, don’t wave. If we meet you again don’t wink, don’t smile.”

We hate to see you go so soon. Will you come out to play again, ask your grammy to bring you. Since she’s a member you get in for flee.

If we knew you loved arogitoch we would’ve been easy on you, next time make your declaration early on.

Don’t pay him no mind just let it be. You are much better than this sister friend. Don’t let him take you there. He is lost in the world of confusion. You know the saying, “it takes every kind of people to make this world go around”.

I will stand behind my article and continue writing as I always have based on personal experience. No one on this earth threatens me or tries to intimidate me especially not you Gudu. I know you’ll have a wonderful response to that. Yes I have been blessed to have had great Ethiopian men in my life who respect and honor women. I write based on what I know. If you have something to teach me then spill it but don’t run around like a chicken with it’s head cut off.

Yeah Gudu, I’m protecting my Ethiopian sister and if you got a problem I don’t give a rats ass. I stand up against abuse even though you try to paint a different picture of me. You don’t know me from Adam but then you wanna come up all in my face thru your keyboard talking crap. Yeah you definitely don’t know me. You don’t like my articles and the way I write then don’t read it. Simple! Where is that article piece you threatened me about? Why don’t you post it on this blog for us? I would love to read what you have to say.

Yes I am a snob, yes I know it all and yes I am always right… feel any better? There is nothing I hate more than Bedingay lay wuha mafeses so Gudu gidangdu stick with making your point and leave the psychoanalysis for the gifted ones. There is nothing wrong with your grammer Homer it is your attitude that stinks high to heavens, Atishw! Damn them rodents

Ah! the irony! [/quote]

You! I can handle with grace. I have a reserved special space for you in both my mind + heart. .

‘cuz, you debate, you argue, you curse…etc all in one with a lot of smile… and i like it. so you give-N-take.

I don’t recollect on your writings simply complaining on others writings’ because they are long or short. you just debate. but, I also noticed that you defend yourself when others out of a blue resort into non-constructive criticsm. and that is exactly what I have done. No irony there!

Of course, if you only take that phrase out of the entire context, that sounds irony to the bare mind seeing from one angle. I even agree there!

Of course, if you are making a dependent entity independent, without equippng it with the substances that make it independent, of course, it sounds irony! no argument there. That is how politicians govern our life!

If i had debated with her (or anyone for that matter), and was saying, that I was writing long and too long and she (they) lost track of the debate then, I’d have gone the extra mile to condense it to accomodate my debator so we exchange some lessons. That is what i am up!

But, simply, dragging someone into your dislikes, just cuz you don’t have a taste to that cyberperson… i don’t see any benefit for both sides. YDamaitu. ..

…now why are you dragging me in here? I belong to the other one and got work to do there.

In fact, trust me, this is the very last type of person that I would respond to. It is just a waste of time reading & writing like this. It is a waste! This was not and is not my objective and expectation when popping up to Bernos. BTW, your Amharic wits met my expectation and that was one of my objective coming here.

I am afarid though as “tizibit” said, some may contaminate Bernos’s dynamism. too bad. I hope it isn’t gonna be as the others that i ran away. if no learning and good stuff why waste me. i just move on.

I will see you on the other end, that is where I want you to be. I need your Amharic more than anything.

-Have a mellow day SheGitu WeGenye.

Ah! the irony!

Gudu you talk a good talk and show indignation towards those who mistreats women yet you are being condescending and sarcastic as you address your fellow sisters here. These are the characteristics of a chauvinistic male who thinks he is superior (in one for or another) than his counter part, don’t you think that lends a hand to the problem you pointed out here? As far as I am concerned, unless you learn to address us with respect and dignity, you are a perpetuator of abuse in women. Pardon moi if I misunderstood your style of writing (i.e. if you are being sarcastically humorous or something) but you don’t come across as a man who is willing to ‘communicate’ with women on a plain field. I am willing to be corrected (and more willing to be tickled )
It is not about being right or wrong…it is about informing/educating and being informed/educated in this two way exchange. What I don’t get is what is so bad about what Celeb claimed and I concurred with? It may not be the truth of many but it is hers…people speak from their own experience and fortunately for her she has the good fortune to be around Ethiopian men (as I have and perhaps many) who treat their women with dignity and respect and are romantic in their own right and I believe that was what she was speaking about and hoping to spread. Her intention (as I understood it) was never to claim her truth to be the only truth, hence deny the existence of abuse in our society…nor was that mine when I asked for the stats to be verified. So why the accusation of ‘la la land’ minamin?

Learning the existence of the problem is far greater than I ever imagined it to be does not betray my initial assertion, also the outrage towards the injustice is not newfound. That said, you keep asking what is the solution and say ‘teach me to be romantic’, how about starting from respecting the opinion of others (women in this case) as you construct yours? How about giving the benefit of the doubt? I say that is a start, what say you?

Cake lemin aybelum tadiya yalechew neger meta when they showed anduwan the pictures of the starved people in Ethiopia. Let us start out one step at a time, then we can talk about the candle and flower gradually but surly

Gudu,

Are you also MWC because you have the same style of writing and you both go on and on and on except he sometimes has something fruitful to say….. .)[/quote]”

…wow …wo…Hold it Lady Feleqleq!
.men AmeTaw yhen hulu Zebazinke/… I wasn’t into your business. Don’t you think it is wise to stick with the one that you start debating with?

STICK with the Person you deal with! If you don’t like my writings, then DON’T! I keep telling those who complain, I am not twisting your sensors or conscious. So, blame yourself for reading me. could this be that there is something you are getting out of it, but you are one of those who just like to whine? otherwise why read me and vomit your your hatred into my face without even provoked.

What I don’t get it is when people complain about others writings’ but cannot provide an OPTION. Just give options and show your Flawless execution. some write short and some write long. it is their process, their style, individuality.

What I don’t get it is when people Justify and rationalize their weakness by blaming others for writing this way, or that way.

write whichever way you want, but leave others alone as well. Others adore their individuality as much as you do yours.

So, chocices are in your finger nails. when you see me, avoid me at all cost. Just leave me for those who like me, and those I like.

~enjoy yourself now.

What is Romance Ethiopian style:

If you are walking on the streets of Addis and you are a girl any of these can happen to you.

1. You may be aproached by a man/ boy who might proceed to give you a big kiss on your face/lips … passers by won’t intervene they could either laugh(mostly the men do that), look the other way or run if they are women who are by themselves.

2. If you are wearing a short dress, you can be called names, gropped or …. passers by won’t intervene again specially because you are asking for it by wearing a short skirt.

If you are a student in one of the Universities of Ethiopia and you are a girl you have to try your best not to call attention to yourself ’cause one of the professors might fancy you and ask you out in which case if you say no, you might get kicked out as the teacher and his friends will gang up on you and give you failing grade.

Rape became a felony punishable by prison time only a few years ago at the persistent hard work of Ethiopian women Lawyers association. And that doesn’t include marital rape.

If you are a girl in the Ethiopian country side you are just simply out of luck because you don’t even have a say on who you marry when you marry and so on and so forth. That is why there is a lot of fistula cases in Ethiopia. At that point when the woman is no longer of no use to her husband she will be divorced by her husband and he will remarry.

Celebrate, I definitly am not trying to put water on your enthusiasm about the presence of Ethiopian Romance but since you sound like a young woman with a lot of ideas and who likes to do positive things I thought I would let you know of the hardships Ethiopian women face in our beloved country.

I just hope that you will make me happy

Egotistical maniac! This is not about you man. Isn’t this about people like your friend Kidist, when did the focus turn to you?

You are here to tell us you want a woman, like Mimi, to cook for you. Hodom! SitasTela! You see a woman like me would whip someone like you into shape but I don’t do charity work plus I have an Ethiopian man who respects my every existence.

Feleqleq, can you talk a little about your experience in the voluntary work that may start this discussion going the right way.

Mamitu, you are the bomb thanks for the information on the Ethiopian Civil Code. Great blog!