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By: Addis

Addis — Sun, 18 Mar 2007 15:56:37 +0000

[quote comment="12470"]We went on a few days long trip to Sodo (Gurage region). We spent the night in a hut full of friendly fleas.

He didn’t complain. We helped make kocho in a hut so full with smoke our stinging eyes watered. He was fascinated. We went to the river to collect water. It was brown. We needed to pour the water from one container to another as the dirt settled at the bottom making the top soil free enough to cook with.

He helped. He needed to use the toilet. He was told to go among the inset plants. He did, without a comment.

Except for two meals, we ate kocho and ayeb. We hiked. We boiled pasta with the brown water we collected from the river. We went to a tiny dilapidated church atop of a small hill at six in the morning on a Sunday. We drank Arake, we sang, and danced with the people.

He told me later, this trip was the highlight of his stay in Ethiopia.

We got married.[/quote]

How many habesha men ( so called Ye Ketema Lijoch) can go through an experience like this with the woman they love. This guy is more habesha than most Et men I know.

By: Yemi

Yemi — Sat, 17 Mar 2007 05:29:26 +0000

A bike blog may have a wider potential audience but not many people will be interested in bicycles on that level. In any case… it should be fun:)

By: bgFelasfit

bgFelasfit — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 06:31:18 +0000

very interesting! makes sense thou…
yap! yemi’s been back…and buchu has been DikDiking all over the apartment…! he’s such a cutie

By: Nolawi

Nolawi — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 02:29:26 +0000

[quote comment="23805"]it’s yemi’s …. she’s got a post up on buchela’s site about it! and I should know…since…yemi’s accepted a submission of mine!! yippeee

what do u guys think about the idea of the bike site? topic too narrow? yemi was expressing concern over that in the beginning[/quote]

a bike blog has a wider audience than an ethiopian audience…

not even comparable.. the number of ethiopians with access to the computer.. compared to one western countries computer user… now multiply that with every English speaking country.. believe me..on this…

is yemi back from ethiopia? haven’t been to buchela in weeks

By: MindWithoutC

MindWithoutC — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 02:21:05 +0000

I dont know which one to respond to. But, all is entertaining by far. especially grandpa/ma analogy. Good insight.

I wonder what would happen, if all these virtual faces were to be put into a Tea-buna discussion house at a beautiful beachhouse?

would this epedemic find a cure? i wonder! just wonder…! all these brainstroming. HOT & Cold .. just wonder ….

..if this misunderstanding will ever evaporate and bear a season of autumn type of fresh leaves’s where we can all be syncyed with our ideal other half… be happy everafter ..and bury this madness in a purposeful way …

as a peopel from that dark continent, We are falling behind in everything if we seriously think about it. Our individual success determines our collective success. That is not a good sign what we have at hand.

Abesha Wonde & Abesha Seyet have so many untapped QUALITies, but, the biggest problem is that:

All of a sudden, the West empowers us with something our individual’s lot canNot handle. And in the process, Progressively:
-Our Heart the lover,
-Our mind the thinker,
-Our conscious the regulator

all in oneness have been engulfed in Silliness, Retraction & detraction.

So, why so much animosity & misunderstanding between Abesha men & women? Who is to blame? Who is at fault? So, who will correct it?

Only, individuals those who wisely awaken their conscious. The key is in us.

Otherwise, who eventually wins in this Power & Authority fight that has made our life –A collateral damage- in our pursuit of love affair!? No one! we all lose, regardless.

but, I am an optimist, and Maybe only those who take the key elements seriously into consideration that heavily mold, and shape each one of us, i.e.
-OUR individuals’ upbringing background-
-Our life’s path experience-
-Our life’s path exposure-

will help us navigate this troubling water that we are all sailing.

Keeping those in mind, if we just wisely open up the 1st platform w/o no string attached just -know me, know you, show me quality, let me show you mine-

And the REST is History!-

if one doesnt see that one expects, then .. Becheretaw Gideta yelem..

.Anchim Arada enem Arada men y’atalanal Besew Berenda .. new…hiwot.

-Until next time – Eskeziyaw!

By: bgFelasfit

bgFelasfit — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 11:39:29 +0000

it’s yemi’s …. she’s got a post up on buchela’s site about it! and I should know…since…yemi’s accepted a submission of mine!! yippeee

what do u guys think about the idea of the bike site? topic too narrow? yemi was expressing concern over that in the beginning

By: Nolawi

Nolawi — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 05:50:24 +0000

how do you know its yemis site??

By: bgFelasfit

bgFelasfit — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 04:06:00 +0000

Buchela’s Yemi has a new site!!!

For Bikes Sake

I’m loving it so far! wanna wanna wanna contribute actually!
props buche’s momma yemi!

By: Nolawi

Nolawi — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 03:33:03 +0000

[quote comment="13089"]Nolawi;
I spent reading your Blog my entire lunch brake and I picked soup from a downstairs.. now catching up on work now. I will come back and comment… Keep up and thank for sharing.
[/quote]
not my blog… lots of people contribute… bernos blog malete yehonal..

but thanks… comeback

By: bedford

bedford — Wed, 17 Jan 2007 02:22:50 +0000

[quote comment="12915"]wudnesh; If you loved the girl last week, don’t tell me you don’t feel anything for her this week…either u lied last week…or u r lying now. If u say u still love her but her inconsistency make u doubt that she is the one for you…that’s at least honest. [/quote]
Wudnesh; I could not agree more… do not you think it applies the same way to women?? You can not shut feeling like a faucet.

By: Bedford

Bedford — Tue, 16 Jan 2007 19:52:16 +0000

Nolawi;
I spent reading your Blog my entire lunch brake and I picked soup from a downstairs.. now catching up on work now. I will come back and comment… Keep up and thank for sharing.

Reading Buchela, it is very unsual to share personal detail including photos in our community. I wondered if their relationship would thrive if they were living in a community where there are a lot abseha’s? Isolation sometime is a virtue to nurture a relationship; very few distractions.

[quote comment="12915"]
If u r an abesha wend who claim to want an independent abesha set, and are in a relationship with such…..[/quote]

I had conversation in past that Abesha wendoche do not like an independent woman; I asked how one defines an independent women? The explanation I got was very wide; I wonder your definition of independent??

By: chelema

chelema — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 04:07:01 +0000

Wudiye, you came out strong this time and I must say, well said. The grandma and grandpa story, very well put. You’re kinda deep sometimes you know that?

By: wudnesh

wudnesh — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 02:34:57 +0000

Curiosity-KT-Cat and Nol,
I don’t c what’s there to be proud about, when u r giving up on what u want just for the sake of your ego. It looks abesha guys and ego go hand in hand. May not include all abesha guys but, many have this image they want to portray…and instead of the ‘real’ them, it’s often what they want to ‘be seen or known as’. If you loved the girl last week, don’t tell me you don’t feel anything for her this week…either u lied last week…or u r lying now.If u say u still love her but her inconsistency make u doubt that she is the one for you…that’s at least honest. Also,Most don’t want to be taken back not because they don’t want to(God knows half his cheguara is gone be-irrir, Kitill, deben when he sees her next to another guy)..but because of what their friends will say.
How about being yourself?
While enjoying a night out with friends last night, one of my friends pointed at one of the abesha guys and said ‘look at the way he dances, walks, and looks around…’, then said ‘and now look at his face…however tough and kostara he acts, when u look at the face, you see gentler, more innocent look’…and true enough, if one was to match the face with the act…minim abro ayhedim. You know what I mean? Actu minamin, ‘He is It!’ neger neww, but when u see the face, u tend to go ‘iwey yene konjo[gunchun behulet ijj yaz adrgo]sitamirr..imuaaa!’
Nol, ok u may be right that some abesha setoch ‘am confused’ yabezalu..but who in their right mind would say that if the abesha wondoch knew what they want and clearly communicate it?
If u r an abesha wend who claim to want an independent abesha set, and are in a relationship with such, then when she asked if you want to go to an event minamin/or travel somewhere, and you didn’t want to go….then she goes by herself and comes back happy….lemin tinadedaleh? I thought u wanted an independent abesha set! And then ofcourse there is the even more confused abesha guy…who wants an educated and smart abesha set who cooks, cleans and does everything for him like his grandma was to his grangpa. Didn’t he know his grandpa did all the work outside for his grandma to be a F/T housewife?…and that his grandma had no other job?…

Though I’m not one for going outside my culture, Yemi and others who are happy…good for you! Ofcourse the happiness didn’t come from marrying non abesha….but from choosing the right person.

By: Kinche

Kinche — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 01:12:06 +0000

I started to read this blog because of the name “Buchela” that is my son’s nickname as well. My daughter’s was Demete. Your Buchela is very cute I must say and you have a very interesting and funny blog. I enjoyed watching all your interesting picture. Looking forward to Buchela’s new pictures!!!!!!!!!!

By: chelema

chelema — Sun, 14 Jan 2007 22:01:25 +0000

nothing but bull-crap again! jeee. I have yet to find abesha setoch or abehsha wondoch who would just stand firm on their two feet on the ground and claim what’s theirs. Most habesha men/women now a dayz are too chicken shit that they can’t even admit what really makes them happy. They just like to front, talk a lot of crap and bullshit. Whatever happened to the good-ol-days when people at least make an effort, with a lot of “meshkormem”, to approach a girl/guy and tell them they’re feeling them? may be we’re a little too modest than we should be. But nothing is real any more, just a lot of frontin’.

By: curious

curious — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 18:19:40 +0000

Thanks for the advice..

Nolawi, I know it’s vice versa.. I wanted to make the point that habesha setoch do give habesha men a chance..

Yet, they should not be taken for granted and if we are unsatisfied or made to feel unwanted, we can find a match somewhere else… and I encourage us to explore different avenues.

Same goes for the men but this discussion is focused on the women.

Curiosity killed- Thanks for the advice- I am glad you found your nero guadegna..and I’ll try to get out of this one without bruising the ego. I also need prayer!

By: Nolawi

Nolawi — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 16:54:55 +0000

Chuche, email us for details, contribution is generally by invitation only.... Curious, thank you for sharing the dilema

However, some of his attitude annoy the hell out of me. For example, he mentions the idea that the clock will tick for a habesha woman but habesha men can get a woman at any age- if not here then back home.

if he thinks that he is stupid... not all men ethio men think like that

Most importantly being with him means that I could be losing an opportunity, missed connection with someone else who might not necessarily be of the same culture..

ere bakish, being in any faithful relationship ... you could have had a missed connection....if you don't love him by now... do him a favor and break up with

him... don't waste his time.. So my point is… we abesha setoch give habesha men (here in North America a try )but remain unsatisfied.

we are generalizing here, ... the same could be said vice versa...

curiosity killed

Ethiopian men are too proud to be dumped and then taken back.

i am proud of this fact, too many times woman say they are confused, confused, they want space and then they want you back... fack that... i second this man...

By: Curiosity_killed_the_cat

Curiosity_killed_the_cat — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 09:01:17 +0000

Curios, you’re truly curios! I know what you mean, but it sometimes goes both ways. You can be dating an American and not have that one ingredient that completes the sauce. I have found myself opposite of you, where things were heading for the serious road with an American and I wanted a break to make sure we were making the right decision and that break served me well because I met the most wonderful Ethiopian and we have so much in common but enough differences to keep us afloat. So it’s hard to judge and say it only applies to one side. Yemi was very fortunate to find her ‘nero guadenga’ in an American but it doesn’t mean it will work equally for you so make sure whatever decision you make, you make it to your best interest because there is no walking back to what was. Ethiopian men are too proud to be dumped and then taken back. Too damn proud that’s what makes them somewhat unattractive. Otherwise well you feel in the blank.

By: chuchu

chuchu — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 08:06:47 +0000

Nolawi

I really enjoyed the blog.
BTW : how do I contribute article to bernos

By: curious

curious — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 06:32:00 +0000

Yemi,

I think you have inspired me to explore and look outside habesha culture… love is love..

I have been dating a habesha man for over over two years and talk is getting serious about marriage, moving together, minamin…and I feel thatI am staying not cause I am madly in love with him but because I thought it’d be better to stick with my own. Having left the country as an infant, I feel connected knowing that my partner is from the same culture as mine.

However, some of his attitude annoy the hell out of me. For example, he mentions the idea that the clock will tick for a habesha woman but habesha men can get a woman at any age- if not here then back home. As I approach my late twenties, I think will a habesha man want me if I am not married when I am in my 30′s? Does he think that I cannot have a meaningul life without a big habesha wedding and being a token wife. Do we settle in Marriage or do we wait for the one we truly love.

Most importantly being with him means that I could be losing an opportunity, missed connection with someone else who might not necessarily be of the same culture..

So my point is… we abesha setoch give habesha men (here in North America a try )but remain unsatisfied.

Solution: Try importing a husband from Ethiopia or on a more realistic option date outside your race!

P.S I am too lazy to correct any typos

By: adey

adey — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 06:31:28 +0000

Mamituye – it is not only abesha men that are importing.
I went to this small island last month where all the guys swear by Ethiopian women. Three that stopped me are married or been married to abeshas and one on his way to bring one..and believe it or not their complaint about their women is the same as our own brothers here.

By: adey

adey — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 05:29:12 +0000

There are more than enough abesha single men and women out there.
Why worry about the ones who are happy?