Mood Swing! 18 Comments

Last night, as I was getting out of my works building and of the, I stopped for a minute and realized that I was actually done with my MBA. So despite my excitement about my new professional life, I knew it will take me sometimes to get used to “The real world,” as opposed to a student life.

To know the road ahead, ask those coming back.” Chinese proverb

Anyways, on a beautiful Monday evening, I turned my final, signed copy of my project. My graduate school professor did some last-minute checks on the document and pronounced it acceptable. After 2 years of Graduate school and 4 years of Undergraduate school with labor and sweat, I was finally done!

While walking back to my car, I was surely disappointed that the heavens didn’t part, with trumpet-playing and angels descending to announce this monumental occasion. Instead I pumped into one of my old professors congratulating me by saying.

The sad fact is, you grad student are no smarter today than you were yesterday.
 “That’s true”, I replied, “but the important thing is that I am smarter than I was six years ago.

The truth is that no student gets through graduate school without experiencing a significant amount of stress. Especially if you have a full or part-time job outside the University like I did. You may feel that you are between two worlds, without belonging to either one. Neither the University nor the workplace is adept to dealing one another. Each may place demands that are incompatible with those of the other.

My biggest problem was the double commute, scheduling difficulties, and isolation from friends and family. There was always too much to do with school, and not enough time to do it in! Sometimes it is not even clear what should be done, only that it should be done now. There were also times, when I doubted my creativity, my motivation, and even my sanity. Well what I can say is that this is normal, unavoidable and all said and done…I don’t have to worry about school anymore and I still have my sanity; beside I’m in a Christmas mood now.

So having grown up in Sweden, the holidays for me are a time for relaxation and reflection, to crawl into your winter lair, light candles and enjoy cooking all the food you have hoarded to survive the winter.

For me ‘an abesha Swede,’ the things that I miss about Stockholm during the holiday is that it marks the beginning of endless invitations to advent gathering with friends and family. It all starts the first weekend in December with “Advent Sunday” and entails drinking lots of “glögg ”  and eating saffron cake or saffron buns. I simply love the Christmas feeling these get-togethers give me. It is not only that I am crazy about the saffron bun, but I love the coziness of the lit candles everywhere and the fire place sparkling which contrasts perfectly to the dark winter cold. There is a wonderful almost childish, anticipation in the air, that there is more to come.

December basically marks the beginning of a long resting period!

Traditions can have meaning apart from the actual activities. Whether it’s driving around to look at lights, baking cookies with your grandma, reciting the Christmas story or eating a big Christmas buffet on Christmas Eve, It’s the good memories that get attached to those activities that make the activities so special. Holiday traditions are like emotional scrapbooks that accumulate over time. Acting out a tradition each year is like listening to a favorite Rap/R&B/Amharic/Tigrinya song – it triggers the memories you attached to it in the past while adding on the memories you are making in the present.

So Bernosowoch, I wish you all Happy Holidays!

18 Responses to “Mood Swing!”

  1. 1 kilomamo

    Dawit congratulation

  2. 2 Wudnesh

    abezahew ishi! minew indezih dimts maTfat? By the way, when I read ‘Bernos hacked’ one thing came to mind….you wouldn’t have any thing to do with it….would you? I mean, with all the deafening silence and all….who knows what you are up to:)

  3. 3 Dawitk

    Hey Folks,

    Well sorry for not replying sooner, been rather busy. The reason is I’ve been busy as can be with my mom who is visiting from Sweden, Christmas, and Bernos being down for 2 days which sucked.

    Anyways, I hope everyone had a great holiday,
    I personally had wonderful time with family/friends and a lot of foods – it was just perfect.

    Now that Christmas is in the past, I’m back at work…but no worries as for the rest of the year I’m still in a holiday mode.

  4. 4 Nolawi

    Wudenesh; dawit is trying to be mysterious… sexy dont you think!

  5. 5 Dawitk

    I believe we all “hold back” somewhat (some more than others) in our own way, to keep a mystery going…

    So Nolawi you might wonder why is mystery a key element in attracting women?

    Well my friend the answer lies in the way people think. You see, the more time you spend thinking of someone, the more attracted you become to them.

    So if you don’t know much about someone, you will spend time thinking about who they are, what they do, what they’re like, and so on. But if you already know everything about them, then you won’t waste your time thinking about them.

    Mystery is an “Asset”

  6. 6 Wudnesh


    Tsssss! that’s hot! LOL! I didn’t know what I was up against…my, DavidK is a tough one. (BTW, who is the other David? y do we have K for our David?)

    David, with the way u think, no doubt u r among the 10% who always succeed in dating the beautiful women (referring to your comment on ‘how to ask an Ethiopian woman out’) Hmm, I just proved you right….I must be thinking a lot about you that I even remember what you said months ago.
    I’d say that you hold back because you are an Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving person. And from what I found out (huhhh, Dave, someone is getting craZy about somebody :) ) about INTPs;
    Their strengths include:
    * They feel love and affection for those close to them which is almost childlike in its purity
    * Generally laid-back and easy-going, willing to defer to their mates
    * Approach things which interest them very enthusiastically
    * Richly imaginative and creative
    * Do not feel personally threatened by conflict or criticism
    * Usually are not demanding, with simple daily needs

    and their weaknesses include:
    * Not naturally in tune with others’ feelings; slow to respond to emotional needs
    * Not naturally good at expressing their own feelings and emotions
    * Tend to be suspicious and distrusting of others
    * Not usually good at practical matters, such as money management, unless their work involves these concerns
    * They have difficulty leaving bad relationships
    * Tend to “blow off” conflict situations by ignoring them, or else they “blow up” in heated anger

    Daviye, let me take some time off weighing the strengths against the weaknesses…..darn, u r a tough one!

  7. 7 Wudnesh


    one more thing, can I safely infer from #5, that you want us to think about you…and be more attracted to you..? :) just teasing.

  8. 8 Nolawi

    wude there are two dawit contributers ena the one comment you are refering too is from dawit which is the author of this article. sorry the confusion

  9. 9 Wudnesh


    I and you are talking about two different articles. The article I referred to was ‘how to ask an Ethiopian woman out’…..don’t remember which month it was from, but Felasfit mentioned something about it last week, and I read it. Going a bit off topic, Was ‘yegna dawit’ from Colorado?

  10. 10 Nolawi

    I know, but that was dawit from richmond and not dawitk from colorado!

  11. 11 Dawitk

    I think you need to rewrite the weaknesses!!! ;-)

    1.I think you meant “naturally good at expressing his own feelings and emotions” (It just depends who the person is)

    2.Suspicious or Distrusting
    (always good to some degree, until you get to know them). Dont you agree

    3.Money management well let me remind you I have an MBA in Finance.

    4.”Tend to “blow off” conflict situations by ignoring them, or else they “blow up” in heated anger” What happened to “Do not feel personally threatened by conflict or criticism”

    So Nolawi – back to 101 on dating…

    A busy person is an attractive person because their life appears to be full, but you don’t actually know that. You simply wish to know more. And in trying to know more, you find an interest level that you didn’t find in those that offer you everything on a plate.

  12. 12 Wudnesh


    Actually, it seems more and more accurate…it did say ‘not good at money management UNLESS their work involves these matters. As for #4, the way I understand it is that those type of ppl (note, I’m avoiding the word ‘you’) tend to keep everything in instead of letting it out…then, blow up in a heated anger. Still doesn’t mean they feel personally threatened.

    But I hope not every man thinks the way you do….and stay mysterious. Because not every woman has the patience to deal with men like that. I can understand taking time to get to know someone before revealing all and being ‘open’…but ‘holding things back to keep interest level high?’…naaaa, I’m a believer in ‘soul mates’ .

  13. 13 Dawitk


    Don’t get me wrong…I think we both are on the same page!!!

    It is worth noting however that mystery is very different from being secretive “holding things back”, stubborn and moody. A mysterious stranger is an attractive person. You want to know more, you want to gain their attention you want to be known to them. On the other hand not knowing about your life and what makes you trick or being downright secretive “holding things back” is something completely different.

    Because at the end of the day someone you can read like an open book lacks that essential quality and is therefore less attractive at first glance.

    People often say that they meet someone when they least expected it. This is partly because by being busy with their every day routine they didn’t notice that someone had taken an interest in them. This is often in part because you are busy. You are promoting an air of desirability because there is a mystery to you. Your life seems full and they are interested. They want to know more about you.

  14. 14 Shanti

    DawitK, I had written a nice long response regarding your statement above as I had misunderstood your comments, but I decided to refresh my screen before submitting, only to find your last posting (#13) that clarified some of the questions I had for you.

    So, with posting #13… you are back as my date for New Year ;) I do agree with you there is a BIG difference between being mysteries and secretive!
    I don’t believe being mysteries for too long can be that sexy, as a matter of fact after awhile it just kills the mood. I also believe a conversationalist and I mean conversation with quality is sexy, humor is even sexier… silence on the other hand, not so much!

  15. 15 Wudnesh

    Daviye…or in italian, Davide (pronounced Daaveed’e), now, I c what u mean. But how long into the relationship would you stay ‘mysterious’?…hint, hint: getting to find out a lil bit more about u :)

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